I am meeting with my old VP of HR for lunch soon, they got let go after a few months with the company. I had a great working relationship with them and felt they were really trying to push me forward in the company unlike my manager. I can’t shake off the “guilt” feeling like I am doing something wrong. Can anyone relate?

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Just because they were let go doesn’t mean they need to be shunned. We’re all human, you’re allowed to eat lunch with whoever you want.

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You are right. I also do not want to lose a good relationship with them as I’m still early in my career and know it’s important to network.

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No. What’s so wrong about meeting for lunch?

If the company is THAT political where meeting for lunch with the ex VP is going to indirectly disqualify you from a performance based promotion…I’d start looking elsewhere. Way too many mind games for a paycheck

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