Hey everyone! I'm planning my own wedding without a planner or coordinator. Is there anything I should know about that I may not consider or think of?

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How big is it? U don’t really want to be the point of contact on ur wedding day….

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I would designate a day of coordinator whether that be someone you hire for the day or someone you know personally. If it’s the latter, it should not be someone in the wedding party or a parent as those individuals will be busy with other things. A lot it depends on how much your venue coordinates. You will need someone to greet the vendors and direct them at the venue. You also need someone to manage uninvited plus ones or guests that didn’t RSVP if they show up.
I hired a “day of” coordinator that I worked with for a month before the wedding. She was very affordable ($750) and took all of the little things off of my plate.

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Did it for a 100 person wedding. Delegating and giving clear instructions is crucial but it can be done. The biggest thing is understanding what the venue and each vendor will do and then assigning out any tasks not covered so everything will go smoothly. For example, my caterer provided linens but allows me to pick them up the day before so my decorators didn’t have to wait for them. I had someone swing by the restaurant on their way to my rehearsal the night before and leave the linens there so they were ready to go for the next person. It sounds like a small detail but planning ahead to that extent made sure no one would be looking to me the morning of.

Also make yourself plenty of reminders to keep track of different vendors payment schedules. It can get confusing the closer it gets to wedding day.

I don’t know if people forget this but make sure there is food available for the bridal party before the ceremony. I was in a wedding without snacks once and it was rough 😆

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I am doing the same.
Honestly, plan big for the honeymoon or home expenses and make sure you have a great support team. Keep the wedding details small. I used to be a wedding planner and there are so many small things you can waste a lot of money on. Get a good photographer and make sure the venue you decide on can host or offer packages for the amount of people you plan to have.
Also, there will always be naysayers or those who want to plan Your wedding for Them. Do what makes You happy!

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In my town, almost all venues require a day of coordinator. It is especially important if you are having your ceremony and reception in two different locations. Of course, this also depends on the number of vendors to be managed and if you have ever run a large event. If you have an incredibly organized, on top of it friend who you won't blame if a ball gets dropped......

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I did the same for a 160 person wedding. Feel free to DM :)

But to answer your question, insurance was the biggest one. And being very on top of understanding all the components you need to rent/buy/borrow

Highly recommend a day of coordinator, you’ll want some to handle all of the issues and keep things moving. You’ll want to enjoy your big day without having things to fix or worry about

We planned our 185 person wedding by ourselves. We purchased a wedding planning binder from Etsy or Amazon to help make sure we weren’t forgetting anything

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