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I am a senior analyst in a big4, passed out recently. I wanna work for financial institutions like Citi Barclays UBS HSBC India . I am skilled It will be very helpful if someone can give me some insights about the interview procedures for the analyst level roles, skills required, wlb, basically any kind of insights will be appreciated.
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I tend to overwork myself and it’s really taking a toll on my mental well-being. I want to learn a lot and prove myself to my superiors so that they recognize me/see value. Now my work has a sense of dread to it. I watched my parents be workaholics growing up, so it’s all I know. I’m also goal-oriented and driven, so achieving a lot scratches that itch for me. But, it’s making me want to quit cause I’m burned out and depressed….im not sure what to do. Any suggestions would be helpful.
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A few options to consider:
1) could always challenge her to a duel at dusk, loser goes home (this is Texas after all lol)
2) id try to connect with your senior manager who has praised you and ask for their advice on how to handle the situation. This positions the situation in a manner where you’re not “telling” on someone, but just asking a respected senior person on how they would handle the issue in a manner that can be more productive for the firm. This can at least put it on their radar and provide some good insight into what’s going on
3) if you’re company has a somewhat competent HR department (which seems more and more rare) I’d flag this directly to them. Keep the receipts of interactions that you’ve had and be prepared to share them with HR. Additionally, voice your concerns about how it’s turning into a hostile work environment and if they do their job, they should be able to deal with your manager accordingly.
4) (in no way attempting to gaslight) try and reflect and understand when this started (was there a specific situation that occurred that caused the relationship to turn sour), this can at least help you better understand the situation.
I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this though - its never fun to feel this way and deal with the BS of someone when you genuinely enjoy your job
Of course!
You could try to network in different departments and see if you can transfer. Your boss is a bully. It’s impossible to win with a bully boss and your coworkers are following her lead since they are either frightened to lose their jobs or they suck as people. You also could wait it out and see if bully boss leaves but that is risky and unpredictable.
Your respectful and decent professional behavior is admirable. This kind of crap takes a toll on your mental health. Keep yourself to yourself and dust off the resume. Be cold with the snickering coworkers and never share what you are thinking career wise & no complaints. I doubt HR will be much help. Set up some networking coffees and lunches with the senior managers you have nothing to loose. Volunteer to work on projects/collaborate with other departments to get more visibility and maybe transfer.
Did anyone else read the first part of this and expect it to finish as …”and I’m seeking a $300,000 investment for a 25% ownership position! Got any takers??”
Or keep records.. emails, write down conversations in a diary, record voice notes that doesn't have company info.
Build a paper trail
Talk to Senior manger (boss's boss) and open harassment complaint at the same time.
Retaliation is illegal and will make the SM act accordingly too
suspect something deeper. I’ve observed that their behavior shifts whenever my boss is around. When senior managers praise me, she either stays silent, rolls her eyes, or displays dismissive behavior.
One incident crossed the line—during a casual conversation, she mumbled an insult under her breath but then smiled in my face. This was just one of many instances that left me questioning what I might have done to warrant such treatment. She’s even made comments to others like, “I don’t know who she thinks she is.” Despite my efforts to be respectful and professional, her behavior persists.
I’ve reached out to her twice about these concerns, only to receive dismissive responses like, “At least I’m not ignoring you” and “I don’t care.” People in the office acknowledge her behavior but simply excuse it, saying, “She’s just mean.”
I genuinely love my job and the work I do, but this situation is wearing on me. I believe leadership should inspire, not oppress or humiliate. How can I address this constructively without letting it impact my well-being or career? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.
Just got out of a similar situation, thats a big red flag for any company, is does exist and you are only 3 month in , there is not a competent HR department nor a core value or culture on that company, and when a company allows or enable such enviroment the problem is not he middle managers nor subalterns, the problem is or are the main head of the company. For me was for over a year two way street desicion, ignored all noises and situation, navegate trought it when I coundn't avoid or start looking for a new job , and I did take advantage everytime I could on my PTO,Sick days all available in advance and as much as I could, but either way the longest your stay the bigger the toll it will take on you. My humble opinion there is not money in the world that worth your health nor family time.