How big of an ahole am I if I don't get my legal assisant a chrismtas gift this year? I've had so many issues with her the entire year. Management is involved. She doesn't calendar deadlines, doesn't schedule the things I tell her to schedule. Clients get mad and my ass is always getting chewed and I'm tired of it. She doesn't respect me and does not prioritize my work because I'm not a partner. So frankly, she doesn't not deserve a gift IMO.

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She is probably sleeping with the managing partner at the firm and she is untouchable!!!!! You should hire me instead. I've been a legal assistant for the past 35 years and know the importance of calendaring. Call me at (917) 969-0994 so that we can discuss my background. I am located in New York City. Thank you and have a great day!

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I think you're right. I've seen that quite a few times. Either that or she's got a few other partners to work for and just doesn't have time for a needy associate.

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It sounds like she’s doing an amazing job for the partner she’s working with and why she appears to not be getting consequences. I’d be careful going after a partner’s assistant - especially if she’s been with them a long time. I worked with partners that were very trial heavy and demanding. I also had a *baby* associate because they wouldn’t need assistance as much to try to even out my work load. He was very needy and couldn’t find his own paper clips. He was annoying and threw temper tantrums because he felt entitled to my assistance. The partners I worked with had a sit down with him and told him if he wasn’t bringing in enough business to pay for his own assistant, having my assistance was a perk. You should ask for a reassignment instead of trying to fix her. Also, don’t get her a Christmas gift if you don’t want to. It’s not expected. If she’s working with partners that like her work, they will cover it. As for how you are handling with management - be careful you aren’t labeled as a problem child. That’s not a good look either.

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I agree 100%. I also commented about "needy" and "entitled" associates before I saw your comment.

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Sounds more like your assistant needs more of a reminder of her responsibilities than a Christmas gift. It doesn't fall on you to go out of your way to spend money on a coworker, but it's never a bad thing to be charitable. I think that should begin with retraining. Maybe she'll turn around

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Hpw is she still employed?! As a paralegal things like this are frustrating to me because I work my butt off and get no where. But yet someone like this can move up the ladder easily. Its amazing...
Dont buy her a gift and if you do I agree with someone else buy her a calendar and put a sticky on it that says USE IT.

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Just submit an unsolicited review that simply says: “she is just soooo two stars.”

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You focus so much on what you don't like about her
Shift your thoughts and you will start noticing what you do like about her
She is a smart girl, otherwise she wouldn't work for you guys,she has an intuition too that you are an ignorant
Also,maybe she has too much on her plate ?
Stop making her feel like an elephant in the room
This post means so much what kind of person you are
You wear this fake persona of how important you are,and how much you have to do of her work
What did they teach you at school ? TEAM WORK !!!
not that you are a king and she is nothing
She deserves to breathe at work as much as you do
But one thing I can tell you :
The best present you are already giving her is showing your true personality: At least when she gets fired she will know what kind of people she would like to work with,and what kind of people she wouldn't ! And you are in the 2nd group
I am disgusted with this post

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Yes, you'd be an ahole if you didn't get her a Christmas gift. It's Christmas. News Flash: She doesn't make what you make and isn't expected to work in the same way you're expected to work.

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Agree

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Why is she still employed?

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Maybe she needs help, maybe some encouragement. If you take care of your employees ,they will take care of you. I've been a paralegal for 23 years, I take care of my attorney. But I work for a solo attorney. He sends me out of town to his beach condo and even to Florida in 2024. If a client starts yelling at me, he steps in and it makes me feel like I am worth it and I work harder. Make her feel like you and she are a team. Yes, get her a gift, Show some support and maybe she will wake up, If not, let her go.

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That's a very nice attorney you've got. Oh, I do. I do admin things for her if she's too swamped. I will do my own filings as pretty often things go out late and I don't want her to deal with that stress or have to work past 5. I've done my own notices too. I prepare and tab my own exhibits so she doesn't have to. Every email starts with please and ends with thank you. I've never been rude or yelled at her. I honestly think I'm being taken advantage of given she's 30 years my senior and I'm just an associate.

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I’m a great legal administrative assistant and I’m up for hire. Please advise

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You give your assistant gifts? Wow-nice.

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Just wish her/him a Merry Christmas and do not feel guilty. They know.

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She was probably not trained properly

Dariaaaaa! Daaaaariaaaa! You’re standing on my neck!

Her workload may be already alot heavier than other LPAs and it may be a bad pairing. Maybe she’s struggling to keep her head above water. What’s her history with the firm? Is there a trail of complaints from others?

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