How do you deal with microaggression in the workplace?

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Talk to HR but sometimes, they're incompetent so I have to deal with it myself. I've actually gotten fired for doing so smh

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I stood up to my boss and told her she was being racist and even showed evidence of it through emails but alas, it was to no avail.

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Not very well, like nurse 1, I too have been fired for dealing with it myself. HR is there to protect the company, management can be dismissive/minimize it..

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Does EEOC even pay attention to claims nowadays though? I feel like we're so sensitive as a society they don't take things as seriously.

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You have to confront it head-on but in a diplomatic and constrained manner. You don't want to come across as accusatory but you have to stand your ground as well. This works best if you have a document paper trail that spans at least 90 days.

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Diplomacy is something I struggle with unfortunately smh

Badly. I call it out as soon as I hear it– I can't afford another time to deal with the same thing. I'd rather work in peace without having to walk on eggshells. Thankfully, none of my immediate superiors have this behavior though, I wouldn't know how to deal with it coming from a person I answer to.

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So you only dealt with it from coworkers?

Ignore, ignore, ignore. If it gets too much, I think it'd benefit everyone if the microaggressor gets called out.

I was ignoring it for like 3 years, it's too much now :/

Could you elaborate a bit more on what has happened and how it impacts you? This is a very broad question and what people experience as microaggressions vary widely so I know that I would be more likely to give you a better answer if there are more specifics.

Gah I’m sorry this is happening. Anywhere but also to you. I agree w folks here, it’s deeply systemic and unlikely to change. I try to point it out. Calmly. Use “I” statements. Or I try to make them go deeper w their statement to reflect. Would you be comfortable sharing some examples and we can brainstorm? I know that’s a lot of emotional Labor to do this. :-(

I ignore it. I try to stay out of any and all drama. I would just try to avoid those poeple all together.

Hi all -- I'm a reporter. If anyone would like to share their own experiences with this, shoot me an email: alex.janin@wsj.com

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