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It's 2025 (not 1985) u don't need to play golf. Find a way to connect 1-on-1 if that's your strength.
Appreciate the comments y’all! But what if this is a long-term engagement? I am worried that it will affect my learning and development if I am not one of the favorites just because I am different than them. My work quality is good so not concerned there.
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Learn to play golf or at least show willingness to learn. Ask them for tips on how to start and so on. And even you don’t golf, try to see if you can join them on social events.
Based on your post, if that’s the only issue here then it shouldn’t take a lot to make it right. This is service industry, you need to make an effort to build personal relationships.
With all due respect this is silly. Why is it this individual who should take up a hobby to impress someone they’re working for for a short stint? Why isn’t it the EM who should widen their aperture to avoid “like me” syndrome (which is a well researched and documented phenomenon).
Also, you act like this person can just take up golf and become tiger Woods… learning a sport takes years to get competitive.
I wonder when we will get to a point in society where “just be a bro” it’s not seen as the only path?
Best thing you can do is be the person that makes their life easy and find small ways to connect with them whether that be humor, mutual hobby, etc. sometimes there’s not a lot you can do and people just aren’t going to like you sometimes and you just have to decide if you want to align yourself with other leaders.
Get coverage from his bosses and ensure they know what you’re doing. Best way to CYA.
Try to make friends with your direct boss but sometimes it doesn’t work and they’ll just try to reck you no matter what. Part of the game. Just finish up the project as best as you can and move on to the next one.
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Become more well liked. Why aren’t you golfing with them or spending time in some other avenue?
It's not hard to golf. It's just hard to hit it far 😂.
I took a few golfing lessons so that I wouldn't embarrass myself at a golf event.
Only do it if you genuinely want to learn it. I certainly didn't mind learning it. As a women working in a male dominant industry, I had fun at the golf event.
At the end of the day, it's also important to be authentic.
Golfing likely will not be the thing that brings you together. You golf with someone because you already like them not because you don’t like them but they happen to golf
Play to your strengths - not to others’ strengths. Otherwise you’re constantly following somebody else’s actions to be popular. Be authentic, be yourself but sharpen and show your real talent.
I used to have a tough time initially because I’m a teetotaler - my boss once told me I need to start social drinking to give company; otherwise I’d likely be unsuccessful. He got fired 6 years ago. I’m still a teetotaler.
Yes, be sociable, friendly and outgoing but most importantly, show your skills when and where they matter. It may take longer but talent and expertise are sticky - social skills alone are not.