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Therapy. It could be a “them” problem or a “you” problem and therapy will help you figure that out and make a plan. Maybe your firm is really toxic and you need to make a job change, or maybe it’s normal and you’re having an outsized anxiety response that needs to be reframed. Bonus if you can find a therapist who’s culturally competent in working with lawyers or other high achieving high performers.
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No, a lot of lawyers are just really demanding and rude. Most places.
I’m this way and it’s a me problem. Therapy is helping. Talking to the right people in big law to get more perspective is also helping. Love the work, love the people but have way too much of my self worth tied to my job. To be honest I haven’t decided if I can get my anxiety down and stay in the big law perfectionist environment, but I’m working on it:
Having existential crisis over the way the world is heading really helps put into perspective how trivial it is what we're doing. That helps me not care.
Since you’re in big law, it’s hard to have that approach since your job is all consuming. If your job takes up 80% of your week, naturally it will be hard to approach it as just a “job”. This is just the reality of the position you have for the vast majority of people in big law.
I think some of this is generational. As associates, we older peeps feared being fired and worked our butts off. We were graded on a curve and competition was fierce. Now I see younger generations who always got second chances and extra credit to score their A’s and were never told they just missed the assignment as kids. So now any negative feedback is catastrophic. It’s not. That’s how we learn. Associates complain about the lack of feedback, but I hear the complaints and see the medical leaves when you get it. Adopt a growth mindset. Know you are here to learn and improve. Your billing rates are so high— you need to get better on every assignment to merit those increases. It’s not personal. It’s just business. You’ve got this—feedback and yes criticism are gifts. Accept it as such, incorporate it, and you will thrive!!
A3, potentially same underlying factors, only that the trigger is internal rather than external