How is the dating situation for the ladies here? I've been finding it so hard to find a man who's comfortable with the fact that I earn more than him, and I can't believe it's the same in 2024 as 100 years ago!

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I come from Europe and some European countries really don’t care about this dynamic. I earn 30-40% more than my husband and support our family (paying for about 70% of our expenses)
In my original country, men also cook and take care of their kids more. It’s more balanced. I love it and feel so lucky.

But yeah I feel you, been in countries and now US, where what you’re going through is quite common. I’m sorry this is tough. I always tell me single girlfriends to find a European man 😂 (for info I’m personally talking about france) maybe bad advice but hope out there?

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Ha! Good luck OP 🙏
Also French men don’t believe in dating. If you kiss, you’re boyfriend-girlfriend immediately (or whatever combination) - and they’re fully invested (or they’re not and they tell you. Or you tell them)
It’s more straightforward, there’s no games

I’d look for a partner in different places than you’re currently looking.

I make more than my husband and we split the shared costs on a percentage basis. Let’s say I earn 60% of our income and he earns 40%. He pays 40% of mortgage, utilities, etc. and I pay 60%. Seems to help with any sort of resentment but also he’s a great guy who never cared about that.

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That's a great system! :) Thanks for sharing. And yes, I will be looking elsewhere haha

i have opposite problem: i canNOT date men who earn less than me. i just do not find them attractive.

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You have to date men who earn more than you, go to networking events in high skilled/income industries and be open minded with race.

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This is really hard even if you are making $100K the pool of people at higher incomes becomes smaller and smaller. OP said she makes $250K while the men who make that money exist, it doesn’t mean they’re single, ready to commit and want to date OP. The question she posed is valid, income /= 🍆 size.

How much do you make? Even for women who earn a decent amount, there is always somebody out there that makes more lol.

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Yea it’s hard to find people who make more than that. But it’s out there. You need like a VP or something lol

I make 4x what my boyfriend does but he's a graduate student, lol. Have you tried dating younger? I think the newer gen is more open-minded about things like this!

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I make 2.5 times more than my partner and he has no issues with it. He does 50-60% of household chores and is highly supportive of my career. They are out there you just got to weed them out fast. I have made more than all my partners. I think it depends on who you want to attract.

I definitely want to attract everything you said was great about your partner. But it's great to know that there are many out there. There is hope!

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I never talk about how much I make. Not until it’s serious and worth talking about. Maybe you’re discussing too early?

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