Haven’t done the dating thing in a while so need advice! (F here) Met a guy at a party on Sat, followed each other on insta, then I dm’ed him my number saying “lmk if you want to get drinks sometime”. He then texts me and says something along the lines of “yeah let’s do it” but doesn’t offer any concrete plan. Does this mean he’s not super into it? Or am I overreacting and I should initiate the plan? I initiated the insta follow and the dm so I feel like it’s his turn…?

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Just tell him when and where. 😅 I think you’re over thinking it. You made the first move so I’m sure he’s thinking you have something in mind.

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Please - go get what you want. If after you have a date and you are still interested- let him know . Who cares who did the initiation?

Guys get intimidated too.

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Too much initiating on your end for sure. I wouldve followed him and then wait to see if he DMed me or just start with a Hi if you don’t want to do the grunt work.

But you did mention it first so now it’s your part to make the plan. Or you can ask him to!

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I'm not saying she needs to court him, but it's weird to me how professionally women have no problem going after what they want aggressively in historically men dominated professions (which is fine and great), but when it comes to getting a man they want, minimal effort is supposed to be satisfactory

Didnt you learn the 5 W’s in elementary school? Who what when where why? You need to AT LEAST specify a location and time lol

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Op YOU asked him out, so YOU should provide the details. It’s not rocket science

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“I’m free Thursday evening for a beer in X neighborhood, are you up for Y bar or Z bar?” And let him take it from there

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All good points, I think I’m just wary of being pushy 🙃 slash investing time into someone who’s not that excited about me. I just always thought (and yes this is very traditional) that if a guy was interested he would make moves? And during the party he never asked for my number. But maybe it’s too early to tell.

And you would be correct about that. All of the male friends I know say the same. Of course we have our introverts but do you get that impression?

I will also say it is super duper early. Since you did initiate follow through if you want or see if he pings you again if you don’t answer like A1 said

Keep the conversation going and see where it goes.

Things don’t just fall into your lap on a silver platter in life.

Give a date, time, and location. You asked him so you can’t now throw it back on him. Can’t have it both ways.

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