I am about to start IVF at 40 yrs. I really want kids but the pregnancy journey is overwhelming me with fear and anxiety - am up for MD promotion, how will I manage both kid and career? Will I gain weight and not even recognize myself? Society doesn’t help - keep taunting me on its already late and may never happen anyway. How can I shut off this noise and overcome my fears?

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I had my son last year at 49 years old, he is 9 months now and I lost all the weight. It is very very hard to balance work and having a baby. My work lost a lot of importance after he was born, but this also depends on your instinct. I have friends that do not mind having their child raised by someone else and leave the baby in a daycare. That did not work for me, i work from home and have a nanny, so i can be part of his life. Your child will have a huge importance, so all these fears that you have now, will change. His or her wellbeing will take over and your concerns will not be the same. I love to be a mom and i really dont care about my carreer as much as before.

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A1 i just saw this now…this is not bullshit, thats actually true. You leave your baby at 3 months old at 7:30 in the morning and pick him or her up at 5:30….someone else spent the entire day with your baby. You can try very hard to fool yourself, but yes, that amount of hours were someone else taking care of your baby and not his mom….they baby knows that, if you want to keep believing that this is not true, go ahead! Pretend that your baby is not missing you during those hours. Give me a break!

Just had a child at 42; she is now 9 months old. I’m using semaglutide injections to help drop the weight quickly, there are options here.
Your career will depend on how supportive your team & company are. Your priorities will shift, but you’ll still have the same passion for work.

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Started IVF just shy of 40. Finally doing my FET turning 41. I worked hard to get my career to a place where I could lean out a bit to focus on my family, especially in the precious early years. There will be plenty of of time to lean back in when baby goes to kindergarten.

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Lots of questions and anxieties listed so I’ll just tackle one — managing you kid and your career. When you kid is here it will just be clear. I know people who do it all different way. Some coast at work and quit the grind and climb attitude for a while to focus on their kid, some seem to effortlessly give both their full attention somehow, and others lean into support systems for their child while continuing to focus on their career. There isn’t a ‘right’ path, and you will figure out your priorities when you have to.

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you girls are just the best ❤️ thank you

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