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I was in a similar position. Work is harder and at times it’s getting toxic. Be gentle on yourself, you’re probably doing as best as you can given the situation. Can you address challenges in a positive manner with your boss?
When that’s failed for me, venting to therapist and my journal in the morning and end of each day has been my approach, but I work to keep venting during working hours and focused on “action can I take and what’s in my control” and let everything go after. Therapist suggested it’s hard to break out of a negative loop, so what can you do about your day to shake it and bring perspective back? I was so negative it was spilling into my relationship and with friends.
It took a few weeks but I tried: changing jobs, have something to enjoy after work, a walk, a new hobby, writing what you’re grateful for each morning and the outcome you’d like in your mood at days end to hold yourself accountable to. Can you make a list of wins at the end of each day? Not being negative is def a win.
I’ve found for the younger ones they’re equally frustrated and then anything I help with makes their day so much better. I hold onto those wins as a positive too.
tl;dr I’m learning that managing, particularly middle management, is a lonely business.
I can’t vent to my team bc I’m their leader and that would be unprofessional. I can’t vent to my bosses bc I’m trying to prove I can do what they do. So instead, all this pent up frustration comes out as negativity. I guess I’m just lonely and work is harder than it should be these days.
I think it depends on your boss/bosses. As a manager, I would rather have an honest, real conversation with someone who is unhappy instead of getting negative energy from them. I am also middle management, so know it is hard. I get a sense when someone is unhappy and it makes me want to know what is going on with them to see if there is something I can help with. Does your company offer coaching? That would be a safe space to vent.