I got feedback from three different people and all of it completely contradicted each other. Apparently I need to “show more initiative” but also “follow direction more closely.” How do you grow in your role when the expectations change every five minutes?
Feels like half of feedback is just personal preference disguised as “development.”

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"If it doesn't apply, let it fly." You're right, a lot of professional feedback is just personal preference, and you're going to get a lot of conflicting advice based on individual personality. Part of receiving feedback is using discernment.

Not the OP but I love "Part of receiving feedback is using discernment." I will think of this often, thank you!

I think you have to take all feedback and dissect it, so you can see what it means to you. As you change editor and outlets you will find that one person's hate is anothers love. You sometimes gotta forget old feedback.

I agree that feedback is so subjective. What one editor deletes, another might highlight. I will try to absorb what aligns with my own growth and let the rest fall away. Have you ever gone back to old advice and disagreed with it later?

If the advice is contradictory, you need to prioritize the most important voice(s) and ignore the rest. You know whose opinion carries the most weight. Listen to them.

Yes, this is key. I will ask myself, “Whose approval actually affects the outcome here?”

I have been there. It feels like you're being pulled in opposite directions just to keep people happy. I started asking for specifics.. "Can you give me an example?" and half the time the feedback crumbles.

That’s such a good tactic — asking for examples should save me rewriting. I find vague feedback the most frustrating. Do you think some feedback is just filler because they feel they have to say something?

Can you discuss this with your manager? Ultimately their opinion is the most important for your progress? You can just say you want to work on all of it but prioritise one more

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