I have a decent paying job and my husband and I live a comfortable life. Recently my parents got into a really bad car crash. They are recovering and are unable to work. I picked up a 2nd job to help them out financially. My husband is complaining that I am not giving him enough attention as I am working one of the weekends. He thinks it's not my responsibility to support my parents financially. I feel hurt by his words. My parents love him like a son, I feel that love is not reciprocated.

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It sounds like you both are going through a lot.. Have you and your husband considered couples counseling to help navigate this difficult time?

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Ignore your husband - he's being selfish. As long as your extra job is only short term and for a few weeks, it's a small sacrifice to help your parents out until they recover. But it should not be a long term commitment - you don't want your parents to become dependent on you.

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I actually don't mind them being dependent on me. They are both elderly and they have supported us all their life. Helped us buy our house, and not to mention they will leave a lot of property to me and my sister when they are passed. They have done right by us all their life and it will actually be a pleasure to look after them.

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Whose responsibility does he think it is, to support your recovering parents? The government’s? Kind strangers?

Obviously this isn’t a permanent solution and you need support, but unless your parents are toxic and deserving of estrangement, we do whatever it takes to help them — especially when it’s just for a window of time.

What is his proposed solution? He’s selfish.

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It might help to discuss an expected end date to the support you're offering them. Appreciate that it might be a while - but regardless of the love you have for your parents, having 2nd job is hard to sustain for your own health, too.

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I’m British and think he just sounds a bit selfish to be honest - from the Americans I have met, they are usually quite hospitable, especially to family

Your husband has a point.

Can you please elaborate on this?

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