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Now I know another thing that I probably don’t want to do.
Sorry for your experience.
sounds terrible, that's why I never dared to attend as an average woman
lol, this simple message triggered several DMs, please don't 😵💫
Sounds it go both way
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At least guys showed, the biggest problem I’ve had at singles events has been men not coming. Or the women’s tickets all selling out immediately. But to answer your question, guys generally don’t plan for sexual attraction to change from the jump so if it’s an initial no, they dead it.
Yup, happens on both the men and women side. Annoying and probably a little harsh, but it is what it is. I'm sorry you went through that.
Part of me wonders if maybe those men were just plants, invited for free in order for it to look like there was an even gender ratio and attractive men.
I have been invited free for speed dating events targeting older women seeking younger men since they don't get enough women signing up for that. But I am sincerely single and open to younger men so it's a win win for everyone.
Maybe these guys were in a similar position...
Honestly it’s not worth it. You’re better off on meet ups, attending events with shared hobbies.
Seems like you know the truth but lie to yourself lol
Can you elaborate?
Some of these events are so hit or miss. I went to a coffee speed dating event this weekend and it was so chaotic. My friend and I thought about leaving before the event even started because we found 2 out of the 20+ guys there even remotely attractive. Talking to them did not attract to me to them either as the majority of them were so socially awkward and/or had trouble holding a normal conversation for 3-5 minutes. Meanwhile most of the women there seemed great both looks wise and personality wise. I definitely would not do a singles event without alcohol again haha.
The guy that have lowered expectations or don't care about looks that much, but me although I am really nice I have to find a person I find physically attractive. Face and body, the whole package, and yes, personality as well is important to me and yes even their hair hands feet, legs arms, back, stomach everything eyes and lips cheeks, but I am really nice, so why should l go out with someone that I might end of breaking up with them, because I am not into them enough. That's cruel and I don't like to make people women feel bad ! I want them to feel happy !