I'm at a point in life right now with 3 kids (6, 4, 1) where I feel like I'm coasting in an attempt to manage work/life. Tired of consulting but haven't found a good exit. Anyone else "been there"?

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3 kids, similar ages. Some projects are better than others, but often I find the flexibility of working remote is a great chance to spend time, volunteer at school, etc.

For me, I don't think the grass is greener if I were working a local job, dealing with traffic, etc.

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I am there as well. Family time is the best, work is just a means to an end at this stage in life.

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Same here with 4 kids. I could care less right now about getting promoted. I would rather spend the time with my family than push myself to the next level. Eventually I will, but just not now.

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I’m there. Got promoted this year but really struggling to care about the work side of things. Not actively looking for an exit but I’d jump if a decent opportunity fell my way.

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I feel I have to double down on Partner track to afford the schools our kids are going to.

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I’m there with you. 2 kids under 10. Gone every week for the past 6 years. Just got promoted, but starting feel a strong desire to exit and spend real time with them. Having a tough time finding something I’m qualified for outside of consulting.

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This is exactly my situation and I feel the same way too. I’ve been in consulting too long and think it will be difficult to land in an industry role matching my comp level. Plus corporate life outside of consulting has its own challenges and uncertainties so the grass isn’t always greener.
I’d like to stay where I am but the pressure of up or out at the SM level of a B4 means that you can’t get comfortable and stay at this rank for too long. There is a lot of pressure to be on the partner “track” and I’m finding it too hard to compete against not-married/no-children peers who don’t have to worry about a juggling work with home life. Outside of grueling client projects there’s only so many hours left in a day to tick other boxes to be considered for promotion to partner.
I’m feeling a bit lost, but I guess it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one.

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Yeeeeeeeeep. 💯. For me, I don’t even want to compete against them. Partner track (a) seems terrible, and (b) doubles down on the aspects of consulting I like least (travel + sales). And then there’s the up or out. Yeah. You got it.

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4 kids here. 13 oldest. 5 youngest. I don’t love my project. But I have some time flexibility, ability to work remotely some days, and my commute is manageable. I’m not in a position to be promoted. But I’m in a good spot. I guess it could feel like coasting, but if I had more responsibility or travel, I’d see my family way less, and I’m not ready for that trade off quite yet.

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M1 with a 10 month old. I really haven’t traveled that much, 30%, during her short life. But, it’s been a brutal alt weekend international travel schedule when I do. I miss her too much and hate leaving my working wife to fend on her own. Actually plan to talk to my wife tonight as I have an interview with a local model shop next week.

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Single dad. Always been a go-getter. However, I recently went through a divorce and mom lives another state. I have custody of the kids. I’ve managed to move within 5 minutes of my work, twin daughters pre-school, and my sons middle school. I love my job but occasionally get the itch to do something bigger and better and to make more money. But to do so I would probably have to commute at least 45 mins (probably more) to get close to what I make now (I’m outside DC and got really lucky with this position). The kids need me more than anything at this point though. Even $20-30k more isn’t enough for me to give up the accessibility that I have to them at this point in our lives. The only way I would jump ship is for a remote position, but even then, I like the work. At the end of the day, I had A LOT of nice things before the divorce, but none of that is important now.

It can be challenging sometimes, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

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