I’m drowning. My kid is struggling and acting out. My husband thinks he is helping but wants an award for every 30 minutes he spends parenting.

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I wonder what it would be like if my husband managed to be present for more than 12 hours. And by that I mean if his day wasn’t 8-8 with 60% if that in the yard. How would he cope with a work day, and kids when he got home? And cleaning.
Id love to check out at 8 or 9 every night and go to sleep, I’d love to think “my partner has this” but this shit is getting fucking old.
What I wouldn’t give for him to take the 13 year old out playing volleyball in the yard or the little one for a walk. But nope in the god damn fucking yard all day and if I need him for a meeting he is sat on his fucking phone while the dishes pile up and the dishwasher remains full. But if I need anything I can ask. LOOK PAST YOUR NOSE YOU SELFISH PRICK AND I WOULDN’T HAVE TO ASK.

What the fuck will he do if I get sick. I can’t get sick. He goes to bed before the kids. Jesus grant me patience.

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Glad it’s not just me!

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Am I the only one? I feel like exploding when I think about how long this is going to last.

Same. (My husband is stressed about the parenting but doesn’t seek praise, thank goodness) But with all the layoffs, furloughs and pay cuts that are or are bound to happen, I’m just grateful for every day that IS too crazy. Trying to remember all the nights I’ve missed dinner/bedtime/etc and enjoying those moments as much as I can. (I’m not an eternal optimist, I just know I’ll spiral quickly if I don’t focus on the positive right now.)

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You are not alone. One of my kids and husband are struggling too. The more I love the better they seem. Son is definitely feeling the anxiety and it’s ok to just be with them and not feel pressure to teach or do.

Not alone...at all. How old is your kid? They’re definitely feeling our stress and anxiety. If they’re doing remote learning/homeschooling, could be too much pressure/stress on them? Maybe talk to the teacher about what’s really mandatory and what can be relaxed. My son is not school age yet, but at first I tried to do one of those structured schedules (🙄) and he totally resisted/acted out. Now we’re way more relaxed about the day and everyone seems happier about it.

Tough age in general...let alone in quarantine. Mine is 4.5, so luckily no “homeschool” needed, but he is craving attention ALL. THE. TIME. I try to have one goal each of day of something we’ll do together - today we’ll do yoga, or today we’ll go on a scavenger hunt. And then let go of any expectations for the rest of the day. Some days are ugly, some are spent in front of the TV, and some are decent. And I’ve accepted that’s just how it’s going to be for awhile 🤷‍♀️ It sucks and some days i feel we’re surviving okay and other days I have a mental breakdown.

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