I’m the only female engineer on my team, and I'm feeling pretty isolated. It’s constant banter and jokes that I’m just not in on, and it definitely feels like a bros environment. I want to build a better relationship with my teammates, but I don't want to force it. Any advice for a woman who wants to be one of the guys?

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I’m also a little out of place with my team mates, they usually talk about video games or other sub culture stuff. But they don’t expect me to have the same interests, and I just interject if there’s something I can relate to.

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Everything is fine. Be normal and the main thing is always have the boundaries and maintain that for last. That's the most important. If you did this then you will have laughing days always

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As someone who is usually the only female in a meeting, I can relate. Engage in more general topics like right now the Olympics are happening, can you find a topic there?

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Hopefully your manager is building more inclusive experiences that are agnostic to those kind of things. Sometimes those things are more in your head. Talk about the things you like with confidence, I think you could illicit enthusiasm from them anyway (woman here whose been in the industry 11 years now)

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