In the 6 years of our married life me and my husband have always had differences.
One thing we stuck to was not to care about expenses like we saved together, spent together...my salary was his and vice versa...
I have differences with his side of the family...but recently I got to know that he has been buying crypto for his brother without my knowledge.
Mind it that his brother is very well off but for some reason he can't buy crypto himself since he is in India.
Knowing my husband...contd...

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I understand where you are coming from. I had similar issue - my BIL is also very well off in Europe and still always made us buy designer stuff for him and his wife from here in the US. I just slowly made my husband see how he is being taken advantage of. I had him tell them to buy some stuff from me and they asked him to transfer the money - bam!! He suddenly got it.. maybe try something like this??

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The issue is my husband knows it all but he keep quite about if and there have been few such instances where it was pretty evident on how his brother played him..
We give them gifts and not small ones...things like iphone, tablet, dslr, apple watch and the list is countless..but making investments on his behalf is not acceptable to me

He is never going to ask money from his elder brother.
We are working hard here to build everything for us where his brother is enjoying family heirloom and still making us pay for him...
I got mad and asked my husband to divide our expenses from now on..everything will be divided equally as I dont want to pay for his brother...
If his brother needed the money for some other reason..I wouldn't have gotten mad and had happily given him whatever he needed...
But I know how his brother likes to take advantage...

What got me mad mainly was I was never consulted before he did any such thing...
I don't feel good about it and I feel like I am spoiling our relationship and making it evwn worse
Am I at fault ?
Help me calm down please

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I am assuming that these crypto holdings are in an account or wallet that is completely controlled by your husband. When a decision is made to sell the crypto assets…. If there is a net loss, then your brother in law owes your husband something of equivalent value in return to recoup the loss. If there is a net gain, which there probably will be, your husband should logically insist on retaining the initial investment amount which he put in, plus a fair percentage of the gain (maybe 33% or 50%?), plus an amount to cover whatever capital gains taxes resulted from the sale which you will have to bear. It’s only fair, given that the brother in law isn’t risking any of his own capital in this endeavor, and is maybe only choosing what to invest in.

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