Is it wrong that I’m so annoyed my ex wants to talk to me, or “be friends”? It is actually a big reason why we broke up (he loved talking to his exes while dating me; I tried accepting it but couldn’t).

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You are not wrong. Cut him off.

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Run for your sanity!

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How long ago did you break up? Tell him you need at least 6 months of no contact and then you can be friends. If he can't respect a simple boundary like that, then he won't be a good friend to you regardless and won't be a good partner to anyone else

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He's basically putting you on the other side of the reason you guys broke up... if you didn't like that he treated you that way, I wouldn't enable that very behavior solely for his benefit so he can get attention, feel validated and feel like he has options. They get comfort from our attention. I wouldn't provide it if he used other women's attention to harm a relationship he asked you to invest into.

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Have you clearly stated you don't want him to contact you? If so, hell no you're not wrong for being annoyed.

While some of my exes and I have agreed to remain friends, we never saw a need to text/ catch up after a few months post break up . So I am not in contact with any of them. If that is your boundary you are not wrong in being annoyed.

If you're not the Prize? Then he's not with your time

You have boundaries just like he does if he can't adhere to yours? Then he's not worth the time kick him to the curb and move on

What he is doing exactly just playing with your mind, by doing what he's doing you are thinking you're not enough? And by you thinking you're not enough that means you're always trying to get his attention? And if you were the prize, you wouldn't have to try

Hey y'all,
I am an new from Africa, I am seeing this guy and it has been a spark from both sides.
He used to mention his ex-wife's name and i asked him why, he said he wasn't doing that to make me jealous, but they've become a family and he said if what we're doing becomes a thing, I'll surely meet her and he'd like to meet my ex-husband and my children someday, if i want him to.
After 3 months, he asked if I'd like to meet his ex-wife and his son (11yrs) and I said okay.
The woman is a very nice person and after that weekend, I sent him a message that I saw that bond and affection and I wouldn't mind knowing why they parted ways.
He said I was right, they were teen lovers and they've been through so many things together and they both chose peace and love for their son over drama. And he did tell me that I am his future.
Tbh, if there's nothing wrong, I like the woman and he asked her about me, she said she thinks I am a kind hearted person.
I asked if he has introduced anyone to her since 2 years of their divorce, he said no.
Do y'all think I should leave him?
I love him, and I love them together too.

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