Just got an offer that would require relocation. My wife was originally on board but after deeper conversations about what the move would actually look like for our family she changed her mind. I had great interviews with the CLO and hiring manager over a long drawn out process which was part of wife changing mind, was genuinely enthusiastic the entire way through. How do I decline gracefully without burning a bridge I actually want to keep?.

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Did she change her mind based on the topic of the conversations you had? Or because the process was drawn out?

Idk if I have advice but I’d probably lean towards honesty. That relocation ended up being not the right decision for your family at this time. Not sure if that’s frowned upon though.

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Just be honest - people understand family reasons

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Obviously don’t blame your wife during the conversation, just say after a lot of thought you decided that full relocation was not the right move for your family. You could even say you’d love to work out an arrangement where you work remote but come visit the office for like a 3-4 day period every 2 months or so if they’re open to that

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Was relo known at outset or did it develop over time?

That’s definitely a long process if they were actively engaging you and not re-orging (or some other relevant reason to delay). I’ve been in those shoes. In this instance, I would say that you’ve had something come up in your personal life during the process that would make relocation difficult at this time. You’re being forthright but wouldn’t burn any bridges.

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