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She’s going to think and feel like you used her for sex, which you did. You could have stopped once you saw her naked and realized that she wasn’t your physical preference, but you didn’t, which means you did in fact have sex with her knowing you were not physically attracted to her. I agree with the guy who said buy her a $5k gift. It at least shows you feel really bad for the decision you made, and it’s an upstanding gesture. Unlike the first decision you made.
Everyone saying "awwwwww, that poor woman*. Maybe she was trolling as well. In my experience, women as the ones doing the dirt. Anything guys do is a RE-action
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I hope she finds a decent man after you.
“we had sex but I’m not attracted to her” LOL
So you let the little head took the wheel for a night, and now the slightly bigger head is awake.
If it makes you feel any better, buy her something really nice to compensate her and break up, I don’t know, maybe something in the $5k as starting.
Humm difficult one... Just be upfront and tell her you don't feel deep enough chemistry to continue further. Dont need to get into the details
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LOL. So you slept with someone you weren’t physically attracted to? You had to have seen her naked at that point.
I get she “deceived” you but come on. Some of the onus is on you.
Where's the girls at anyway
Pls stop with the $5K gift BS. If anything, it's so disrespectful to think that giving someone a gift is compensation for the situation.
To be clear, to have sex was a mutual decision and not something that I forced on her. If she were to break up with me for whatever reason, I wouldn't say that she used me for sex.
To people who are making me out to be a horrible person, I'm curious how you feel about people who break up with someone after sleeping with them because sex wasn't good. Would you say that's using them for sex too? How is this different?
Director - you’re probably cheap AF
This is such short term thinking. If she became physically fit in 3 months would things change for you? This is just one aspect of a relationship. Did you like other things about her?
OP I am in the exact same situation. Other comments are unrealistic and unempathetic. When we are out and in the moment, we make decisions that sometimes we later realize aren’t in our long term interest. That’s life. It happens to everyone in different forms.
We are humans. We like seggs. Sometimes we pursue healthy intimacy only later to realize they’re not the type for us. Woody friggin do. Don’t let these comments guilt trip you, I commend you for attempting to address it earlier than later.
Just say you don’t see it going any further, asap. Don’t drag it out or be super nice in the meantime. But also, it annoys me when people try to misrepresent their appearance. Hope she will learn over time…
M here… do you have a body worthy of her being interested in? 😂
Regardless - if you are truly breaking this off due to physical attraction issues, that is a horrible thing to say to her. You can use a white lie about how the connection isnt right or whatever you want to say, but there is no reason to be cruel and cause massive insecurities ‘on your way out’
Don’t waste her time anymore but also don’t be hurtful. It costs $0 to be nice
Tell her you're interested in her body not her brains... Don't lie to her. I'm sure she's probably sweet smart funny all that but you just can't get past the pack that her body's not perfect for you. She'll take it well
OP just say you wish you unfortunately don't see the chemistry being there in the long term.
For the record it's also not "deceiving" to wear figure flattering clothes. My god we aren't animals at market, we are people, and there is a lot more to us than a love handle we didn't highlight to you.
What was the big thing she was hiding? You can’t hide a significant amount of weight without it being slightly obvious. Is it because she has like 10-15 extra lbs and is a little soft?
My point was going to be that 10 lbs is inconsequential and something that could potentially fluctuate over time. If you really like her as a person I’m not sure I feel like this should be a dealbreaker.
What specifically were you put off by?
How long have you known her? Who is to say that after taking the time to get to know her character and her story that her looks will not grow on you? It can happen. Are you willing to at least be a friend or do you want to completely cut ties?
I don’t know the full background story here, but I would say that at the end of day, you need to be honest with her.
Women have done this too - dissatisfied with the penis size and knows this will not work long term, but he’s a nice guy.