How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

Once a week is fine for some people.

Sounds like you’ve got some communicating to do… What other couples do is irrelevant, what’s relevant is you’re not happy with the frequency.

like

4 months in a relationship. Have it almost every time we are together, several times we had 4x in 24hrs (2x in the night and 2x next morning)

Aka honeymoon period

Recent IconRecent

This is a very common problem, and it is usually not an exhaustion problem, it is an emotional problem. Something is lacking in the relationship which is causing this. It could be she doesn’t feel love in the relationship, or doesn’t feel like burdens are equally shared, or doesn’t feel respected. Solve the emotional problem, and the rest will solve. Don’t wait too long. It will get cemented

like

Been married for a while. Average once a month; I want more; communications have failed; she is always tired and thinking about kids. Says a lot of women go thru this challenge 🤷

like

This is pretty much me and I have to beg for it but it’s OK because my wife is really hot and I’m just average so I’ll take it.

Married for five years, no sex for four years.

like

@M2 I see Reddit said open marriage is just a fast track towards divorce. So just don’t want to bother.
I am a new immigrant, have no family here, and feel scared about staying in the US just by myself.
I can relocate back and still enjoy global pay in an international law firm. But I think it’s not worth it.

Just had a baby - once a week now that we have the green light to go again. Hopefully more in the future. Hubby sort of lost interest in me when I was Prego and I get it - I was huge and had a bowling ball in the way. Hoping his interest comes back to pre baby levels in the near future.

like

7 years in a relationship. 1-2x a week

like

8 years and over the last 2-3 years it varies. We could go like 3 months no sex or then have sex a few times a week. But I have been on birth control for the entirety of the relationship, and it really decreased my libido. So I have recently came off it and already see a difference But now it’s like I’m afraid to get pregnant, we still sometimes forget to use a condom after almost 10 years of not using them, so every time we have sex I take a pregnancy test and that makes me not want to have sex 🤣 lol so we are at a learning curve right now

Reading these comments is sad and makes me want to play the field, forever!? 🤦‍♂️

Seriously, wtf

At home not very often. Outside maybe twice a year

Married 3 years, sex ~2-3x a week

1x a week when she’s on her period (usually towards the end when its lighter)

3-4 times a week otherwise.

We’ve been together for almost 6 years

Well aren’t you special

like

Been together for 5 years.. nowadays we have sex 2-3 times a week and I’m gonna eyeball that I give him head at least 1 a week ??

Together 6 years, married for half. It varies, sometimes 3x a week for a few weeks, then sometimes nothing for 2-3 weeks. Typically linked to how we’re feeling health wise. But after 2 weeks of no sex it starts taking a toll on our relationship.

Supplement with "self-care"

When I was younger (think college) and with someone it was 4-6 times a day. More recently 1-2 times a day when with someone, although I've been single for awhile now so 0. 🤷‍♂️

Related Posts

What's your date of Jalsa??

like

Where is the best place to watch football on Sundays and meet a single guy in his late 20s to mid 30s?

like

Lockdown makes it hard to date

like

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

like

How do you casually date? Recently moved to a new city I didn’t know anyone in, met 2 girls I like and have gone on a few dates with but not sure I like them enough yet to like commit. Is it wrong to go on dates with both until I figure it out? Not sure what to do, getting into relationships makes me feel trapped and unsure for some reason

like

I play candy crush to destress. I would never actually tell anyone that though

like

Just curious, do people from this bowl still do sexting?

like

Recently divorced after 10+ yrs (40M, Denver)... Starting to figure out dating again. What age difference is it too cringe to try to date?... 10 yrs younger ok? If you're low 30'sF us a 40M in play?

like

Thinking this is the year i iA find someone, prayers for all of us single 🐟 wanting to take that next step!

like

Any good female pgs in Green Glen layout, bellandur. Looking for single occupancy (under 15k) with a gym in vicinity. TIA

like

Question that could belong here or in the Relationships bowl:

How do women prefer to be turned down if the guy they’re pursuing is not interested. I know men have the capacity to deal with rejection poorly, and I’m not suggesting otherwise. But in my anecdotal experience , women take the gentle “no thanks, not interested” poorly.

likesmartfunny

Any 35+ male 🐠 want to chat and see where things go? 33F in a smaller East Coast US city but very willing to travel to meet in person if we actually hit it off.

like

I’m really into older women, just wish I knew where to meet them

like

Matched with a guy on Tinder. Had a great first date. We are stilling chatting on WhatsApp. But he has disappeared from my tinder (presumably, he unmatched with me). Is it typical for ppl to unmatch on Tinder when they are still interested in you?

like

29M from Kerala, living in Chicago. Looking to find someone local to seriously date. Please DM if you’re interested!

like

Namaste! Hopefully moving to Seattle by January - what’s the dating scene like there? Tired of the single life - looking to finally find the one and settle (M here).

So...who is single and ready to mingle? ✍️

like

I'm 21 but I graduated college really early and I'm a analyst on track for promotion next year. Most guys my age are still in school and the ones older than me are hesitant because I look really young and I'm 6-7 years younger than most of them . Has anyone navigated dating in a similar situation

like

Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

like

22 M looking for F in the D.C./Virginia area

More Posts

Hi All,
I am having 6 years o lf working Experience in IT
Working as Support Analyst for leading IT Company. I have always wondered about why my Skills are not matching with Market Requirements.
Could you please suggest good opportunities available for REAL Time Integration (RTI) opportunities available, if any

I am working with Level 2 Team as Senior member and support Middlware Technology Application

Splunk, Snow, IBM AIX, Enterprise Service Bus and IIB etc are tools I use.

Please suggest!

like

Guys, I have an offer for a PM role. Just wondering is £85k is reasonable. Crossing over as someone with 5YOE in a related field.

like

Thoughts on juice cleanses?

like

Best CBD brands for sleep... ready set GO!

like

I've been working out since early 2020 6x/ week and lost ~30lbs. However, I didn't adjust my eating -only switched to an intermittent fasting schedule (eat between 12-8pm). Now, I'm trying to focus on better eating. I struggle with sweets - If it's around me, I need it all lol and Uber eats is a weakness bc of all the dessert places! My meals are relatively balanced so not a major issue...

I've heard of intuitive eating but sounds a bit fluffy (lol) - other tips? What has worked for you? Help!!

likehelpful

Is there such a thing as bike etiquette when locking your bike??

For example when there is a bike already locked to the post and you want to lock your bike but it's a tight squeeze because their wheel is in the way? Do you find another post?

like
like

How do you cook chicken breast so it stays juicy? Also how do you warm up leftover chicken so it stays juicy so you can cook less frequently? When I make chicken it is so dry and tastes terrible warmed up.

like

I got feedback from my manager telling me that I should always have an opinion, which is very hard in group settings, esp. when people are talking about a topic unrelated to my module. Any thoughts ?

My job just announced mental health benefits to help end the stigma: 25 therapy sessions for employee+family a year at no cost. 🍾🍾🍾

likeupliftingsmart

4 years sober today. So much to reflect on, not least of which how important it is to “get comfortable getting uncomfortable”. In my experience, it’s truly the only way forward.

Sending strength to you all 🖤

likeuplifting

Hello! I’m looking for a female sports masseuse that has availability between tomorrow and next Thursday, does anyone have any recommendations? I’m a long distance running who has been training for a marathon on may 1st. I do have a car so I am able to drive if they are located in the greater Boston area.

like

Recommendations for best ways to save for retirement after contributing to 401k up to match and maxing out Roth IRA?

like

I started a small LLC on the side. My company is getting it's first client this month.

Wondering if any 🐟 have recommended resources on setting up initial consulting business thru an LLC.

Books, websites, tax strategies etc.

My LLC is already incorporated, but looking for guidance with the next steps (creating contracts, invoices, etc)

likeuplifting

Looking at purchasing a townhouse/condo on the beach but the HOA fees are ~25% of the PITI. I’m wary of HOAs to begin with - any insight?

like

Started my law firm this month. Have a few of-counsel positions and want to do mostly litigation (civil and commercial in NY). Besides word of mouth and networking, have any of you found any websites or services that generate legitimate leads?

like

Does Next Gen issue a formal report for PGS testing results? I had my embryos tested and my clinic just told me which were normal and abnormal. No other info on embryos ratings, etc. they could have not even sent it in for all I know!
Also, how involved are you REs? I’ve been through 2 retrievals now, but feel kinda in the dark still on a lot of things. Some of the nurses are hit or miss and if I want to talk to my doctor I have to schedule a consultation and its typically a 2 week wait.

like

Yikes Ella lol

Post Photo
funnylike

If I take a job at Amazon in India, is it considered as prestigious to FAANG companies as Amazon in Silicon Valley?

like

Hey I have 1 YOE working at ZS.
Are there positions at Lilly which matches my experience
Can someone please refer

Additional Posts in Relationships

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

like

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

funnylikehelpful

Am I horrible wife if I don’t get my husband anything for his bday. I have no idea what to get it’s too stressful. He always gets me stuff.

like

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

like

Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

like

Hi all,

What do you think is a bare minimum CTC required to sustain a good married life considering life in a metro city. I do earn about 15LPA. So how much should. I look for in a guy?

like

Is there such a thing as over texting the person you like?

like

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

like

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

like

If someone recommended you reach out to a mutual friend to get to know them for a relationship, do you ever mention that to the person?

like

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

like

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

like

Been seeing a guy for a few months now and I can’t stop myself from getting in my head. I’ve never been in a solid relationship before like this and I’m afraid I’m going to mess it up. We’re together most nights and some nights I need a night off or some space, but when I don’t hear from him I get paranoid that I did something.
I don’t know how to just let things be and feel we’re as good as I know we are.

like

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

like

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

like

Considering dating apps—any insights?

like

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭

like

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

like

FML. I’ve been dating someone for 8 months and have been having doubts about the longevity of the relationship. This week he tells me he is thinking about leaving our city and working remotely. Even though I was already thinking about ending it, this hurts. I know I’m being childish - being rejected by someone who I was planning to reject! And I know he isn’t the right guy for me in the long term. So why does this hurt?! 😭😭😭

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal