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From a woman's perspective, I know that I'm capable of making dinner reservations and generally planning time with someone.
From my point of view, if a guy can't make plans for the first date it's probably a sign that he's never going to make plans for the entire relationship, which means I'm going to have to do all the heavy lifting if we ever want to do anything. And that's not someone I wanted to date
If you're really adverse to dinner, then if you can plan coffee and some sort of activity, that would personally work for me.
Dinner just feels very natural because it's something I'm going to do anyway, and it basically adult skill is having enough conversation skills to make it through 2 hours with a stranger.
Just to add - making reservations at a restaurant may seem like a very low bar, but showing you can do this gives you a leg up on 50% of the guys out there.
Nice try
when man takes care and organises things, it s very attractive sexually.
if u r ready to take a risk of not having the 2nd date/not being attractive to her as a man =》 dont book anything and do not do any effort
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I (a woman) personally hate dinner as a first date, but in my city you need reservations for most places even if we are just doing drinks, and if a guy picks a restaurant for drinks he should have the foresight to make the res. Like how annoying would it be to get dressed up, meet at the restaurant for drinks, and then be told it’s a 40 minute wait. Make the res.
I think her prompt about requiring dinner is a yellow flag, but the res is not
Oh, and her other prompt says romantic dinner as preferred first date.
She wants the princess treatment
She just want you to ask her out, give her name of the place you want to take here and time. Guys will ask you on a date, then ask you where you want to go…😆
I agree, not a great start with that.
As a guy, expecting me to take the lead wouldn't put me off. At least not yet. It would more depend on the type of dinner that she considers acceptable. For example, I met a woman last year and a 🚩went up when during planning for our date, anywhere I suggested was considered too casual for her. The types of places she went all the time were the types of places I save for special occasions, etc. I'm just not that boogie, while she was all-fancy-all-the-time. It was a fun first date, but there was no second.
Fair! 😂 Bougie it is!
Massive red flag. Dinner is for date 2 or 3.
HOWEVER, maybe it’s just a bad habit and she doesn’t know better.
This could be an opportunity to practice emotional maturity, by successfully leading her into accepting a non-dinner outing as the first date. If you can manage that, you set the tone as a leader rather than a follower.
Because the variety of selection on dating app guys/girls could have, courtship just ain’t exist anymore.
You can spear a few dollar for a dinner with a girl you actually vibe.
means she is a good girl.
if a man does not book something beautiful i simply will not come, so all is good with her.
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