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Just an FYI Gaetz also “raised” an immigrant child without any actual paperwork and is not a blood relative.
“Geatz did not formally adopt Nestor (and he declines to discuss Nestor’s relationship with his biological family now). He re-frames the matter, saying, “Our relationship as a family is defined by our love for each other, not by any paperwork.”
https://people.com/politics/matt-gaetz-tells-story-boy-he-raised-as-a-son/

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I would engage an employment law attorney now to understand your options so you have a response ready if you lose your job before your parental leave starts. This is unlikely since you’re due before the annual reviews, and they can’t give you your review while you’re on leave (so you’ll receive it when you’re back). With the new law that came out last year, women are more protected during their pregnancy BEFORE the baby arrives, so an atty could help with understanding how you may be protected right now. The final half of both my pregnancies was hell on earth and my work availability suffered greatly, so if you’re already getting pushback at 19 weeks, it probably won’t get easier/better as you progress. I’m sorry you’re going through this!! I would keep your goal to getting to maternity leave while still employed and get the paid leave. While on leave, you can usually further extend your leave past the paid portion for unpaid leave, so that can stretch out your “employed” period of time. Check your firm’s policy on whether you need to be active after leave to not have to pay the time back if you quit after taking leave.
Thanks! I’m fully expecting to be pushed out after that review, and was just trying to buy enough time to get me to my leave (this was my first review there), I just have a newfound fear that they’d let me go before my leave by moving my annual review up a few weeks because they mentioned we’d reconnect in December during annual reviews “before my leave” (I actually plan to go out in November but didn’t tell them that). I know it’d be terrible optics for them to do that when I’m about to pop but I also don’t trust them and don’t want to be naive.
Thoughts are with you so much! I am in similar position except I was going to start trying this fall but everything is on hold until I can land somewhere new. Unfortunately I’ve only been at my current firm for a year so it’s been really difficult!
I know this is invasive and very personal but my advice is always to try as soon as you’re ready to be a parent. When I was finally ready to try and timed things up perfectly I had no idea how long it would take to get pregnant (over a year). At the very start of trying I’d been at my firm 3 great years and suddenly a horrible partner got her claws into me and I had to leave, but what if I got pregnant?! I need my leave! So I stayed 6 more months after wanting to leave, still wasn’t pregnant, and decided I needed to go. Lateraled, and then I thought, “well now I can’t get pregnant right away bc I want to be at my firm for at least a year first!” I kept trying anyway, got pregnant exactly 3 months after starting (9 months after starting to try) and thought, ok, close to cutting it to my one year, but it’ll work out! And then I miscarried anyway. Got pregnant again 3 months later and God willing everything will continue to be great, but now I’m in this new situation and scared I potentially won’t get my full leave. I thought I had timed things up perfectly (even waited a year longer than I wanted to so I’d be the perfect “year” before going on leave) and there was still no great time. You really can’t even predict this. I am sending all my good vibes to you and hope it all works out!!