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I’m going to b school in a different city from where my GF goes to med school. Been long distance for about a year and a half now. Long distance works, but you both need to fully trust each other, have a good communication schedule, and have a concrete plan on how you both will end up in the same city in the future. On the point of trust, it won’t work if you have any doubts about infidelity. On the point of communication, you need to create a schedule for and set expectations on when you will speak, visit each other, and how responsive both of you are to texts or calls. Regularly talk about communication with your SO and adjust as needed as you go. Many LDRs fail because one person starts feeling like they aren’t receiving enough attention. On the point of a future plan, make sure to have a full career discussion with your SO and decide on a single city you guys want to be in for the long run early on. That way, you can both keep your efforts focused during the job search. Also, having a clear plan for your future together will motivate you even more to get that job you want in that city because your relationship depends on it. Good luck to you and your BF! I’m rooting for yall!
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I would never recommend 2 people in love to split for career purpose. Long distance is risky and draining. Misunderstanding quickly happens and the separation is never really far.
I met my wife I was a struggling entrepreneur in Africa, we decided to love each other and live for one another. I moved to the town she was living in and went seeking different opportunities, at first she supported me for quite the time but I could bounce back and repay her trust.
Business made me travel all over our country and she was by my side. At a point where we felt stuck she asked for us to move to another country. I was against because I was doing great. But because of the vow to live for one another I took the risk.
We have been together for 8 years, got married 2 years ago, we have 2 children, we now live in Canada, and she completed her masters of engineering management while I worked and soon I will go for my MBA while she works.
Together there is always a way.
I mean at some point in your life you have to make choices based on your significant other, it's the late simple.
Do what you need to do for your career. If you do end up in different cities and he wants to be with you, he will move to where you are. Long-distance is not easy, but being in the same city is no guarantee that your relationship will last.
They don’t, good luck! Wxn
I assume that you will be applying to the program he is attending or at least programs in the same city. This can be part of your story. And perhaps you will spend time on campus with him and immerse yourself into the culture.
I know folks who have made it work. In fact, not being in the same city meant they wouldn't feel guilty for being out late studying and didn't feel that they had to have the SO tag along for social engagements.
One person who comes to mind was in the South for school and left their partner in SF. They got together every month - either when one was recruiting in SF or the other would visit campus. Then the one in school secure a job back in SF.
With so many remote job options these days, if BOTH of you want to make it work and are committed to making it work, you can do it!
https://www.stratusadmissionscounseling.com/blog/four-tips-for-couples-applying-jointly-to-mba-programs/