Honest question: Are you intentionally mentoring anyone who doesn't look like you? And I'm not referring to your randomly assigned counselees. Type Y or N.

Thoughts on inviting co-workers to your wedding? I joined a new team a year ago during the pandemic and haven’t met them in person - I’ve developed some cordial working relationships but not sure if I’d consider them wedding close! Any thoughts or advice?

GDS folks, a colleague of mine has defaulted on timesheets (more than 3) at senior level and was rated as Progressive. Is that the sole factor for not him not being a rated as differentiator?

What % do you guys charge a partner to advertise on social using your handle/ad account? Is a 100% markup fee plus an "agency" like fee for maintenance of 15% too aggressive?

New writer on an account. Being pitted against the other existing writer on the account for every project. They take it very personally if my work is chosen over theirs

As someone who isn't a PoC I'm always unsure of how I should refer to others correctly. 2nd question:

If referring to the only minority on another team is saying "the Asian/black/etc" guy offensive?

My boss (atty) is so disorganized! I’ve been with him 6 months and he’s having a hard time delegating, sharing info and managing deadlines. I’ve organized the caseload to manage the deadlines. He says he wants me to help with discovery but when I offer to start on one, he says he needs to do it. (Since he might have to present as evidence) When I give him deadlines and ask for the docs he says he’ll get to it. It’s a small 1 man firm, and I’m the first assistant besides his wife. Any advice?

Newbie consultant starting in a few weeks. What’s the attire like with government clients? Suits whenever on site? And are you typically on site all week except Friday?

Since we returned to office in October, is it appropriate to give holiday gifts to team members?

How do you handle rude clinicians in the workplace? I always have an attending talking down to me.

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.

This executive I support has given me an e-gift card for the 3rd time in the past 5 months. Each gift card is $300.

I had already told him monetary awards were not necessary as the "thank-you" and words of appreciation were enough for me.

Is it normal to receive such large monetary awards? I think 50~100 is acceptable

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Working with a Junior AD who’s too opinionated & doesn’t respond to my feedback well. He’ll just show ideas that I’ve already debunked/scripts that aren’t very good, which makes me look bad. Advice?

How do you deal with your “mentor” being threatened by your performance and gatekeeping information from you? Then turning around and giving you shit for not knowing things… but they don’t tell you anything and there is no way for you to know. My learning and development is being hindered and I’ve felt this for a long time, but coworker just confirmed this is the case. Now that I know I’m not “crazy” for thinking this, how should I approach this?

Where do you over 50 ladies shop for work clothes? Need a bit if a wardrobe refresh and looking for ideas.

PARTNERS: two questions —1. If you see an associate has really low hours for the month, do you imagine them chillen on a beach somewhere or do you consider they probably spent most of their days sitting in front of the computer being “available”? 2. If you send an associate a random e-mail on a weekend like “Can you pull X and send to Y”, would you get annoyed if they responded saying they weren’t by a comp or would you consider it reasonable that they wouldn’t be by a comp on a weekend?

What are some things you can do when you feel like you aren’t fitting in with your team?

How do I leave my role as someone on the talent team. I am on a small recruitment team of only a few people, who connect daily. I am also responsible for sending out updates tracking new hires and upcoming leavers (aka I would be on this list if i decide to leave). If I am looking to leave my company, considering all of these things, how do I do it in the least awkward, most professional way possible? I want to put in at least a two week notice, but will continuing my work after that be weird?

Do you think it is time to find another job when your PIC is a micro manager, never trained you when you got hired, expects you to know things no one ever told you about in the first place, texts and calls you in the morning with questions you don’t have an answer to (I work evening shift so I’m mostly sleep when he reaches out), assumes the worst about everything, plots against you anyway, lies all the time, they don’t even do their job, they leave their trash behind etc. gives me anxiety.

Been for a company for over 2years. The executive team is very much a boy's club. There are a few women in management roles but zero ethnicity diversity there. I raised my concern to HR in feb. And they are just now deciding to do something about it. They want me (white female) to put together a diversity committee. Any suggestions on how to go about it? How to attract volunteers to the committee? I want to make sure I get the right people involved in this, to push for changes.

Any of you guys in Hong Kong?

Hi Folks, my counselor informed me I am being moved from Senior 1 to Senior 2 but rating is progressing. Is that good or bad ?

Do you have advice for making industry connections as a fairly anti-social introvert?

Anyone on here ever traveled on Emirates?

Please suggest to get some nice suits at London. I will be there for two weeks.

Thoughts on living in Newport/waterfront JC?

Hi guys, I have a table with customer information. Some entries are invalid. Way to find them out is by invalid customer name like ‘dguychjki’.. no definite rule. More so like you get to know that it does seem right. How best to extract such entries for further review? What condition do I put in where clause of sql?

which is better for mainframe modernization - AWS, Google cloud or Azure

I got 50% hike in Infosys however in accenture, I got 20% mid year hike and 30% hike promise in Dec'22 to match Infosys. Should i stay in Accenture or move to Infy? which company is better?

Are there many legitimate ethical hurdles when switching from insurance defense to plaintiff’s work? I’ve always seen myself as a plaintiff’s lawyer, but ultimately took an ID job out of law school (better salary, no real opportunities at plaintiffs firms that I liked). I like what I do—so far—but I’m constantly thinking about whether the grass is greener.

Friday Bets

Yesterday Italy O1.5 was -125, now -145 hmmm

Got offered 115K with 25-30% bonus for a fund accountant role with 3 years of public experience. Is that normal? Seems like really high. I live in NY to clarify. Combination of Big 4 and midsize experience. What’s the normal salary range for ppl in that range?

Hi Fishes,
My brother completed his MBA from a good institute and am currently a CFA L2candidate (appeared from my exam in August 2022). He is working with Capgemini for an leasing investment bank client. He has approx 2.5 years of experience and is interested in roles like FP&A, Financial Modeling, Portfolio/risk management, valuations or fixed income. Would appreciate referral in Financial Services companies please.

Does anyone have any experience or insight as being an attorney for tech start ups?

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Hello Folks,

I am looking for my first switch

YOE- 2.6
TECH- ServiceNow developer
Current CTC- 6.6 lpa

I have one offer of 11 lpa.
Could you please help me how much I can more expect?

TIA

Looking for 2 to 8 YOE for lateral hire in Technology consulting roles. Folks with red hat, open shift, RPA, BPM, Salesforce CRM, big data & Analytics experience and certification, DM me for referrals.

Soon to be making 85k in LA, looking to move to a new apartment. What would you think is reasonable to spend on a 1 bedroom (not studio)?

Is anyone wondering what life will really be like for all the new Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion executives that many companies are hiring and bragging about now? I wonder how much power they will actually have to effect change. I wonder how long the trend will last.

What are some racial/gender/age based micro aggressions you’ve experienced in the workplace?

I recently changed my last name. When my husband and I got married over 20 years ago we talked about what legacy we would leave it children... Would it be in the form of a company, a brand, or what? We came up with a name that was the second half of my first meme combined with the second half of his first name. We didn't yet know how we were gonna use it... But we had named our legacy. Over the past couple years, as things like 23 and me have become more popular, we started...cont'd

Hello! I'm looking for DEI director or DEI program manager position that is remote. I'm currently a director of equity and multicultural outreach right now.

How did you all get into the DEI space professionally? I’m doing a lot of work internally at my firm and spent a lot of time in my masters program focusing on DEI and want to do DEI work full time. Looking for any guidance in making the transition from traditional consulting.

Just got off the phone with a recruiter who asked me what year I graduated from my MBA program and college and effectively told me I was too old for the role. I do have the 1 year of experience they asked for in the job in question. It's just that I have all this other experience in things unrelated to the role or things I want to deemphasize in my next role. Is there anything I can do? I only list the last 8 years of experience (as it's most relevant) and don't have my graduation years listed.

Venting a bit: Are you finding DEI groups at work overrun with allies. Is there also an increase in celebrating said allies? Is it just me?

Most of the groups I'm in (esp. event teams) are being taken over by allies wanting to do what they think should be done to 'celebrate' whatever topic the month is, usually speaking over marginalized coworkers and rarely consulting with them. It seems like the only time this doesn't happen is for gay (usually yt) men or BHM. I'm just feeling so...minimized.

I was talking with an Asian mentee who told me that he has experienced the following microagression during job interviews: "You speak English soooo well!" Any suggestions about how he can respond?

Hello fishes, Do you have suggestions on Diversity & Inclusion activities that can be done virtually with a group? I found few ideas in google but would love to hear about any experiences and suggestions.

Something about using the phrase “commentating” regarding Tulsa or the anniversary of George Floyd’s murder feels wrong. Am I off, or should I suggest design team revise this copy?

Are you responsible for giving performance feedback? Avoid giving personality based feedback. Examples include telling an Asian person they are too quiet/shy or telling a Black person they are agressive/abrasive. DO NOT DO THIS. It clearly represents bias in Performance Management. Performance feedback should be tied to business outcomes with clear examples of what the person does well + how they can improve.