My parent died and I’ve been back a short while and I’m still in a fog. It’s just hard.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I can completely relate. My dad died a month ago, and I’m still having a hard time focusing and processing everything. I spent most of my week-long bereavement leave dealing with logistics, so I feel like I’ve barely had time to grieve. I cry every morning on my walk to work. Please DM me if you feel like talking. Hang in there.

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It will be hard for a while, the fog is thick and there's nothing I or anyone else can say to clear it. I lost both my parents in the span of 2 years and sometimes I'm fine and sometimes I'm not. I just had a panic attack this morning and now I'm on my way to the office. But talking about it and being honest has been the most helpful. If I burst into tears seemingly out of nowhere I stop fighting it and just let it flow. Especially when you're coming off of something so recent, people will understand and at their core are not heartless about this stuff. If you need more time, take it. File STD with a therapist or doctor sign off. Hug your best friends. Order takeout and watch trashy reality so you don't have to pay attention to it the whole time. And then, one day, it'll be a little bit easier. It won't ever be the same but it will feel like some semblance of normal eventually.

And I'm so sorry for your loss. If you want to vent or anything, my DMs are open.

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Tell your kids about your parent. Talk about them to anyone else who will listen too. What survives us is love. Talking about them is your love for them carrying on. And it really helps on the days where getting out of bed is the victory. May their memory be a blessing.

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Sending you a huge hug. So sorry for your loss 💔

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Thanks all. My spouse lost his job so I’m feeling extra pressure to perform and keep my job steady. We have small kids. I feel completely unmotivated. I do dream of taking a leave and resetting but I don’t see how it is possible.

If it helps, they legally cannot fire you on disability. If you check on your policies, it may be possible to receive full pay while you're out. That's how it worked for my situation, it might be different for yours depending on benefits but it may be worth looking into.

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