My wife concluded today that men and women aren’t equal and that she will bear the brunt of home and kid duties, so I can focus on my job and get rest on weekends. Sounds like a setup to me. Thoughts?

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You're a dad. There's no such thing as "rest".

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Yes, definitely. She probably means the exact opposite.

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Act like it’s the exact opposite. Even if she means it, you certainly don’t want to be raising your kids to believe that.

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^ yeah I make an effort to be in my kids life as much as possible. Just had a rough patch work wise and literally fell asleep during multiple family activities.

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Feel you OP. Wife and I have split house chores. Explicitly. So it’s clear who owns what given our dual career. When things are tough at work though, the other spouse steps up to support on chores with the expectation that it will be paid back. Could that work for you guys?

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RUN!!!! 🏃 🏃 🏃

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Sounds like she’s having a tough time, feeling like you’re trapped is not a recipe for a good partnership

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US problems. These things are rarely a concern in Europe.

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I slept 11h last night. Whatever the consequences, this was amazing

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May look seducing for you on short term, not good on the long term

Seems fair, we have a similar arrangement.

^can you explain?

Say nothing, take her out to dinner, and buy her something nice. Better to just acknowledge that statement with actions instead of words.

She probably want a something like a new ring for 10 year anniversary. She wants something. Unless she is naturally unselfish and logical.

She may be serious. But it isn’t in your best interest to not be an active caregiver. Sounds like you need to have a very open conversation

Thanks all! Helpful comments

She angling for a nanny?

Man super woman right there good on you

Sounds like someone needs a RACI chart :)

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