The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

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I am so sorry my friend! I think you should seek help as it is not something that is easily overcome and even less alone.

Sorry to hear about your friend. It's never easy to lose someone you're close to. I would also recommend talking to a qualified professional. The earlier, the better. I hope you find peace, brother.

I offer you my deepest condolences for your loss. PTSD is no joke, but it can be treated with proper help from professionals and by developing healthy coping mechanisms. Here are some reading materials from the VA that can put you on the right path: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/gethelp/selfhelp_coping.asp

My sister died of cancer while I was still deployed, and it's the hardest thing trying to let go of the guilt I feel over leaving her. I know it wasn't my choice but it's still hard to deal with. I was a train wreck looking to happen. My best mate convinced me that it isn't a sign of bravery or strength to try and go it alone, it's not something people are equipped to deal with unless they have support. Reach out to the VA, they will help you, it's important.

You are going through PTSD, my friend, and there IS a way through it, I'm living proof. Please don't try to deal with it on your own. That isn't what your pal would want for you. You don't have to work on letting them go as much as trying to attach some meaning to their death. Let your family help you through it, and your buddy's family too, chances are they're going through a similar grieving process right now.

My grandpa was deployed when he was 20-something years old, and I never knew how much it had changed him until after I joined the service. He was really worried about me in a way that I'd never seen before. Didn't make sense until we got a chance to hit the pub a year or so later, he opened up about all he'd been through in the war. He'd never had a chance to talk with anyone in our family about it but "there's things you need to know now, kid." He made me promise to talk with someone any time I felt low, not necessarily a professional, but someone I can trust. (Sorry for the long post. Just sparked a memory for me.)

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