New dad here. Joined consulting a little over a year ago. How do you manage the long hours at work and also make time for your child and family?. Appreciate some tips here. I felt that i wasnt there for my wife during the first 2 months when my son was born. Felt horrible and guilty for not being able to bond with my child.

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Set boundaries and adhere to them the best you can. In consulting, people will take what ever time you are willingly giving.

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Agree, set boundaries… most cases it’ll be accepted, though sometimes there needs to be flexibility on both sides.

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Different perspective - I’m grateful to consulting which gave me around 5 months paternity leave to bond with my child and help my wife, I decided to leave consulting after paternity because my wife was not comfortable me spending so much time at work. Moved to industry for now, may be in the future I may come back to consulting.

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Set clear boundaries around your worklife. If you let it, working at nearly any company can expand and expand and nudge more important elements of your personal life (family, friends, volunteer work). The onus will always be on you to define the right boundaries.

That doesn’t mean that won’t be exceptions to any rules that you set…but these need to be exceptions and you really need to be resourceful and creative to make the boundaries hold 95% of the time.

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Agree with all those who say take all the leave you are entitled to. Also your in a high income / high growth role which does ask a lot but can also let you afford to pay for support. Do everything you can to have high quality times with the kids and protect that but outsource anything that frees up more time for this (cleaning, meal prep etc. what ever suits you but this is part of making it work.)

I have slightly elementary aged kids now and it’s a lot easier but still takes prioritization.

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3 kids here; newborn included. Others have said it best, but wanted to add that it’s possible to do it multiple times in this career.

As you continue, many others will know the struggle and/or empathize (even if only in small ways).

You’re doing great.

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Of course. Happy to chat about it.

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There are some really great responses here. Nobody ever said they regretted taking paternity leave - if this is an option for you do it. I took 2 months off when my son was born (secondary carer) then another 4 months when he was 6 months old (as primary carer). One of the most fulfilling and rewarding experiences of my life has been being by his side, bonding with him and watching him grow.

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Wow! Amazing to see someone has pulled this off. My son was a handful from zero to about 6 months. Couldn’t have imagined staying home alone with him for 4 months, but it’s motivating to know it can be done

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2 years in consulting - started at the AC level with a 7-month-old in tow. The first year of consulting was hard, but since then I’ve put up more stringent boundaries and got more efficient. Some things that worked for me:

1) do not allow yourself to be put on travel cases but that’s easier at a firm like LEK where that’s standard
2) block time in the evening on your calendar to have dinner with your family and be present for bedtime - this boundary should be strict unless your case is completely on fire
3) be prepared to work later to allow for number 2
4) do not work on weekends
5) take any and all parental benefits offered (leave, temporary modified duty) - did / doing this with my second and loving the time I get to spend with wife and son
6) Cs get degrees. Don’t overperform at work. Do just enough to not get fired and still get on time promotions

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Thank you.

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