What work/life event (if any) made you arrive to the conclusion “this is just a job”? How old were you? At what point in your career / How many years of tenure?
How did your attitude towards work and work-life balance change?
Have you ever revisited or regretted your conclusion? Why/why not?

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I’m 49. I’d say just in the past 5 years I’ve stopped caring so much. No longer trying for the next promotion or looking for power or authority. No longer feeling the personal weight of it all.

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The pandemic

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On my first project at 22 where I met a bunch of 50+ year old folks who all had dreams that were put on hold because of bills and children, I knew then that traditional retirement path was not for me and still hope to exit early.

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Oof!

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I'm about 4 years into my career and have reached that point. Have become very cynical and just want to retire ASAP so i can enjoy my life each day.

Main reason being that i don't see why i should stress and push myself / sacrifice my personal life when there's no extra benefit and i have no motivation to do so. I don't really enjoy much of the work i do and don't like most of the people i work with. In the past when I've been excited to take something on I've always been burned by it because I don't get the support i need, end up taking on too much, and end up regretting it. I've seen people do half as good a job as I've done yet we still get the same recognition, get promoted the same time and get the same raise/comp. I've also worked with several extremely toxic managers who have made me extremely cynical about working with teams, etc. Overall I'd say it's mostly the people that make me dislike work...along with the fact that i just enjoy everything about my personal life way more than working

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I admit that's true...love learning and being able to do a great job / succeed with a project. However, i guess i feel that all the other frustrations that exist in the workplace take any fun and interest out of pursuing self actualization and pushing myself at work. Maybe I've just had bad luck with where I've been and who I've worked with

Personally, I have never felt this way even for jobs I have disliked. In every circumstance it was the people (typically leadership) that made me feel this way but still took pride in what I did. I always try to see things this way and maybe it is a method to hypnotize myself into have a better sense of purpose. I have begrudgingly left jobs I have enjoyed because people made it suck and now that I am in a role with no overhead and working one other person I recommend for the position, I absolutely love my job. That doesn’t mean everything is perfect but what aspect of life is perfect? I still have to set boundaries and deal with difficult people but it comes with the job. I feel bad at how many people I see on this app that hate what they do for a live. And even in some cases feel depressed about it. I really hope they can find happiness in the workplace in some way.

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I had the Rona end of last year and the old job told me to not worry about work and feel better. I felt better then had to stay home due to a close contact at my son’s daycare…suddenly they weren’t as understanding.

I resigned & changed careers.

It’s been a struggle but I wouldn’t change it.

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33yrs old, BD, 9 years tenure, proper break down, for two days… then I decided to actually TAKE my lunch breaks, and CLOSE my laptop at 5:30, and remember no one will die if I miss an email.

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Pandemic for sure. I was gung-ho and passionate about what I do pre-2020, but after that have been feeling detached from work life. Even after switch jobs twice - it’s just not the same drive anymore.

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