One of the directors on my team is a woman in her 30s and she speaks in a very child-like affected way. If I was pressed to give it a term I'd say "basic" or "Cali" girl but it's just not very authoritative, and she finishes her sentences with her voice going up so they all sound like a question. I'm concerned that it undermines her authority in outside meetings and I'm so tempted to speak to her about it but not sure if it's appropriate. What's your advice?

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Oh the high rising terminal uptalk. Always a bad look and holds so many people back. Especially women.

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Dear Exec, you can't come down on the Cali girl for her accent any more than you can fault the Southern belle and the "New Yawkuh" for their accents. The Irish tend to lilt up at the end while the Scots seem to try to drive the sentence into the ground. Let's not even talk about Australians. If you can find a suitable time to talk to her with some tips on speaking in public -- without focusing on the dialect -- that is well within your job description.

I don’t think it’s dialect that Exec is referring to. I think it’s the uptalk affectation. https://youtu.be/NQWej-hMiZI?si=nktrVP57X4Uy0KwV

Send her to toastmasters and let them teach her effective speaking. Better yet, bring someone from toastmasters in for a workshop and make sure she is there.

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I have a coworker like this except she tends to talk like a baby and it drives us all insane. I had to have a sit down talk with her which was awkward in which I told her she needed to try to stop speaking in her baby voice. One chat seemed to do the trick.

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