Over the past year … ive had at least 10-15 first dates flake on me after setting a date and time. Just feels bad. Didn’t have anyone on hand to say this too but 😔

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I feel this too, especially when you’re genuinely excited to see them too 💔. I’ve always learned to get through this that is never worth to get upset about someone who never probably to meet you in the first place. As messed up as it sounds, it just knows that at least I didn’t waste my time and money with someone who never had any intention of going anywhere

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This is the way to think about it - your future partner wouldn’t treat you this way so they have selected themselves out.

I definitely get down sometimes, but I’ve grown to love my own company so if I meet someone I want to spend time with, that’s great. Otherwise, I get time to myself, which I see as a gift.

Ugh sorry. Follow A Little Nudge on Instagram, she is amazing and helps so much with this stuff. I promote her all of the time because she jsut makes so much sense and I wish I had her when I was out there dating.

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Make some investments before going out. Chat a little bit. Have a video call. Invest some time to know each and make sure they ask in advance like 3 days - if not just say “hey I would love to buy I already have plans tmrw”. If they ask you out today for a tmrw date, you are just filling the blanks and it’s easy to get cancelled. Try those things and your chances will improve

Where are you meeting these people - on apps?
Are you texting, or face-timing too?
Also, tell us a little about yourself. Thanks.

Apps and events. 34, work in tech. Minority. Relatively fit. I typically dont facetime as that was usually never requested majority of time when i was like 28-32. Like just a natural meeting.

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