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Is it me or are all these responses tone deaf?
Hey op, sorry if the responses haven’t been helpful. It’s hard to respond in an online forum when you don’t know exactly what the situation is. And ppl don’t want to presume. I’ve had these types conversations with many friends including myself (a lot of us did the b school thing which entailed a lot of heavy drinking) and the conversations all go very differently, depending on how serious the situation seems.
Some have had to find professional support. Some have quit cold turkey, and they are very disciplined about not drinking even when we all go out. (And as friends, we all respect that line.) For others, including myself, it took a growing awareness over time to modify behavior (a lot of it is tricks on drinking more water, mocktails, sipping slowly).
It really is a spectrum. I can’t speak for other people and for you on what the approach should be. But for me, it became an ongoing conversation around whether I need to have a drink at that moment or not. Did I need professional help? I didn’t go to AA, but I did bring it up a couple times with my therapist, and we conversed about why I drank.
I never got blackout drunk, but you could say, there was a mental dependence—I had a habit. I used to drink at the end of each workday to relax. And for me the conversation I needed to have frequently was, do I need this drink to relax? Does this drink bring me happiness? Like I said in my other post, I haven’t cut out drinking 100%, but it’s been a process of cutting back and finding alternative ways to enjoy, unwind, and relax.
Good luck.
Drink mocktails when you go out. Club soda with a splash of cran
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Yeah I agree with this. I used to do this too. I still get a fun drink that I can't make at home, but just don't have any of the alcohol
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I can handle the physical hangover, just concerned about the mental dependency. Especially over covid I’ve not been a pretty drunk…
Whenever you do decide to drink, drink a lot of water, make sure to have food in your stomach, and drink IV fluid at the end of the night. Makes the drinking experience much more tame and less hangover the next morning
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I think (hope) they’re referring to Liquid IV.
https://www.liquid-iv.com/products/hydration-multiplier-packs/?variant=32091071938596
I’m like this too...I used to have a drink (or two) every night. But honestly I realized that I just really hate the way I feel the next day. I still have drinks on the weekends but I def think about that disappointed feeling and it deters me. I also don’t like the bloat that comes with drinking. Good enough of a deterrence for me.
I’ll opt to drink a lot of water instead.
If you think it’s a problem, listen to that intuition. You don’t have to be a heavy drinker or drink every day even to be an alcoholic. And you can only fix problems you decide to face. The mocktails idea is great, but the mental dependency on alcohol is definitely a hard roadblock. Consider talking to a therapist and/or a trusted friend. You’re already on your way to being healthier by facing it and your family and the people who love you will be so glad you’re healthy and that means so much more than being fun or fitting in at the social aspects of work. But I know it’s easier said than done. I wish you the best
Please seek professional help. Binge drinking is alcoholism
I’ve found for all of my mild addictions it takes a about 3 weeks then you won’t crave it.
Junk food/booze/booger sugar
Agree with the mocktails suggestions. Slow down and nurse the drink if mocktails aren’t an option. Also, think about it is that people like drinking with you for, and amp it up to help distract from how little you’re drinking.
If you think you do than you are probably correct.
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IVe always been a big sipper. Will drink 1/2 what colleagues do by the end of night
Naltrexone
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Around how old are you?
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You’re in your drinking prime
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How many drinks do you have in a night Op?