So I (male) wore a short sleeve polo shirt to work one day last week. Today I get a call from HR that a female coworker reported me and was really distressed bc she could see my nipples through my shirt.... continued

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Jesus Christ. People need to get over nipples. Everyone has them. The people who are uncomfortable are the ones that need to deal with their own issues.

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Omg!!! If she was distracted by your nipples then SHE has the issue not you. Tell HR that you feel sexualized and would like to lodge a counter complaint.

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

I'm female btw.

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I was going to say the same thing - turn it around and say that after thinking about it, you feel victimized by her specializing you. That is so absurd (F here).

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She's distressed??? I am mortified and distressed. HR tell me that I absolutely should not confront her orr retaliate against her... I'm like this cannot be serious and why would I retaliate, surely HR corrected her that I didn't do anything wrong. I was just wearing a normal polo, right? No. They tell me she felt threatened and distracted by my nipples.

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Threatened and distracted? What planet do you work on?

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Not to laugh at your pain, but I’m deceased 🤣🤣🤣

But your female coworker needs to chill. We all have nipples. Can’t imagine what she’d do if she witnessed a boner 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Working from home!

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As a woman who doesn't wear a bra.... This is ridiculous. What are you gonna do? Leave your nipples at home? Put on your work nipples?

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We need detachable nipples, stat

(This is a sentence I never thought I'd need to type)

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OP: pics of you in the offending polo shirt bruh.

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Oh yes, need to see

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I’m dead. It’s so rare that I’ve had people report men for dress code violations and that the first I’ve ever heard of that complaint from men. But honestly, that happens to women too frequently. Maybe you need nip covers? 😂💀

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PA1, what about hair? We should cover that as well... Some people see hair as a fetish. So everyone should cover true heads, faces, legs, arms, hands...

This lady, when she goes to any beach and realize beach doesn't have HR to report all the shirtless guys with nipples

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Uh oh

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I got a tip for you!

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Finally! I couldn't believe that this comment went 5 minutes let alone 5 days before someone said this.

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Put in your notice and then wear this for your final two weeks

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Yesterday, I asked in a womens bowl how we felt about hard nips at the office and one person said when she sees a woman with hard nipples, she thinks the woman is intentionally seeking attention.

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Upvote AM1, the gym. The gym I go to has a lot of gay guys and I think a lot of women choose so they can workout undisturbed and, yeah, nips tend to be visible in workout clothing especially because of the exercise. Happens to guys too. Mine are definitely more visible in workout shirts and the gym.

In another part of the thread there were posts about nip pads, covers, protectors... when I used to run a lot I needed those to prevent chafing. On a long run, those little buds would get pretty irritated

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The “polo”:

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It’s Pride. It should be allowed. 🌈🥳

This reads like an apocalyptic future type novel 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 and they’re considering interviewing more ppl to assess the psychological damage your nipples inflicted?!

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Maybe the next David Cronenberg movie

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Is this for real? Imagine the situation reversed and a male employee complained to HR about what their female coworker was wearing.... Wtf

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SDPM, picture proof?

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The old-fashioned dress code for men requires an undershirt under a shirt to avoid nipple showing, does it not? If women have to wear bras to the office, I take it as a fair expectation to expect nipples from any gender to not be visible

Generally, I like no bras and do not mind nipples, but I also like an office environment that is equal for all

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My husband wears tank top style undershirts (idk what the correct term for them is) under polos and it looks quite nice. Agree w MC2 above re the dress code for men.

Wait is this real?

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Real

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This is my brand of equality. Make men wear pasties!

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Complain to HR that the complainer is objectifying you by staring at your nipples and creating an uncomfortable work environment

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That is what I was thinking! What's next...the bulge in his pants is offending me? 😀

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Sounds actionable. Hostile work environment. Pattern and practice of sex- based harassment. Best thing to do would be to send office wide email castigating management

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