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One of my favorite podcasts did an episode on Adderall. Most of the info won’t be new, but there were some interesting snippets in there. I also thought it was a useful educational resource to share with your family and friends.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/09GrvBHXIU0ECgLZHcN35b?si=pUH-Q-1JQa2j3YHNV3uhZQ
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Sorry but this concept of “if you care about it you’ll be on time” doesn’t work with ADHD, at least not my brand of ADHD. I could care about something more than anything in the world, but things like time blindness still mean I’m very likely to be late. It has nothing to do with how I feel about the person or the importance of the thing.
The only answer I can think of is commit to only things you know you care about enough to keep the time.
Why are you running behind? How behind? Do you use a calendar or notifications today? Is there anything that you are consistently on time for?
(Asking to understand more specifically what you are trying to solve). My initial reaction is can you treat your commitments like they all happen 10 minutes earlier to give yourself room for chaos ?
I’ve found blocking out the travel time as an activity or the prep time required (e.g. getting ready at home or stopping what I’m doing and going to the meeting room at work, etc.) in my diary helps me to combat my time blindness. It alerts me so I know I need to stop what I’m doing and switch to the other thing, which has really helped me in being on time more. I may still be the occasional 5 mins late because of traffic or something but it’s much less frequent now
You have to schedule prep and travel time and make it a habit.
Example if lunch is at noon set an alarm wrap up current task by 11.
11-11:30 prep to leave.
11:30-12 travel time.
It’s excessive but the only thing that works for me.
Also planning to be there early and schedule 10 minutes something you can do alone while you wait. Like I aim to be at lunch dates 10 min ahead of time and use that time to respond to unread messages (I know you have them ADHDers). Somehow that eased my anxiety of “wasting time” and encouraged me to be organized.
But I see you and I am one of you 🥲
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In a 90 day leadership program I had to call a coach at 7 am every weekday to state my vision and commit to my goals for the day.
If I was late for the call I committed to do two hours of community service. I was about five minutes late once and doing the service was extremely inconvenient for me given my travel schedule but I did it. A second time I was a minute late and was super pissed about it. He insisted I do the service or i was out of the program.
That broke any habit I had about being late. It also made me aware of others who show up even a minute or two late to meetings.
So as the poster above noted, I often block out 15-30 minute meetings for myself before meetings to prep.
I also have in my routine to write down (again) my daily schedule and plans in a separate single column 15 minute incremented day planner (in excel). This reinforces what I need to do that day and helps me focus on just the 8 hours ahead, top 3-4 priorities, and keeps me from getting distracted by the whole week.
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TLDR- accountability and punishment works
This is Bain of my existence with WFH. There is nothing other than my laptop and phone to remind me of things and if I get up to eat something and then start doing other things. Time blindness gets in the way and I completely forget to check the clock.
In person work would give you teammates who you can walk to meetings with or visual reminders to check my laptop or setting-based motivations to stay in my laptop.
People tend to make time for folks whom they care about. In other words, some talk to you in their free time whereas others free up their time to talk to you.
The difference couldn’t be more real. Only something to consider…
I know this sounds silly but I changed all my clocks to ten minutes ahead so that it sort of tricks my brain. I think its 7:00 when its really 6:50 so it gives me ten mins. It seems silly but it does work for me.