They say don’t take it personally, but how are you supposed to not take it personally when your manager nitpicks everything you do while letting others skate by? I’ll get five rounds of edits on something my coworker submits once and never hears about again. It doesn’t feel like high standards, it feels targeted. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of selective scrutiny? How do you cope without letting it eat at your self-worth?

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If you get that feeling, it most likely is targeted. It is hard to deal with that type of issue as it causes you to second guess everything you are doing. I know its difficult but try to focus on your work and try looking for another environment as it is unlikely the person will change their treatment of you. It only gets worse and does have long lasting effects.

Practice growing a thick skin

I actually don’t agree that a thick skin is the answer here. I think sometimes people can be targeted with negativity and it’s not a healthy environment to work in if you’re constantly being told you aren’t doing good enough- this is more about figuring out how you can improve so you can also build your confidence; not learning how to take more negative comments

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