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Hi Guys,
Need some guidance. Cleared with tech interview for HCL.
YOE - 6.5+ Years
Project Management experience - 3 Years
Current CTC -8.4
I asked for 13.5 LPA and HR mentioned there team will call on Monday to discuss more. Have I quoted bit less, this is what I am feeling now?
Provide your valuable inputs.
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I disagree, and that’s ok. We’re not meant to have it all. The 40 hour work week (although let’s be real it’s more like 50-60 hours for most people) was designed with the thought of having a wife at home managing the kids, the household, and the cooking. If your husband isn’t a stay at home dad handling all of this, it’s nearly impossible to feel like you have the capacity to be a successful mom at home and still have a stellar career. Having it all is an illusion. It’s ok if you don’t feel like the best at either or neither at any given moment. We should try to give ourselves and each other more grace and less pressure about having it all. That’s not to say you shouldn’t strive for it, but it’s ok if you can’t make it work.
Yep, you can have it all but not all at once.
I actually needed to read this, all I’ve heard is “your priorities will change, you won’t be as ambitious when you have kids, it is harder to commit the time, etc”. Well, I guess I’ll die trying
Love that this post created such an incredible dialogue!!! Strength to all of you mamas and mamas-to-be. I am in hospitality, it’s a 24-hours industry and was able to grow my career from line employee to department head in the first 5 years of my daughter being born. Could not have done it without my husband’s support though. So kudos to the supportive partners out there as well.
I think actually this post creates a false ideal and narrative for women and then makes us feel inadequate and like failures when we don’t achieve it. I have a great career and two kids, but holy hell it’s hard and I have a very supportive husband as well. Some days I rock both, some days I rock one, a lot of days I suck at both. It’s tough. And while yes you do not have to choose, you do not have to be perfect at both either. The line “you can have it all” is very misleading and sets a false pedestal and causes more harm to women who are juggling both. I want all women to know that in your attempt to have it all, give yourself the grace to fail, suck, and pick yourself up again.
I believe the best employee (or leader) is a mother- excellent at multitasking, excelling with efficiency and ambitious to be an excellent rile model and bread winner. I became a very young widow with 3 kids and became the most high impact ass kicker around, and my professional career skyrocketed. Easy- no, very possible and rewarding - yes!!
Single full custody mother here who’s built her career during my kid’s life. No excelling at either, but doing it
As a mother of two children under 5, working full time alongside my partner also pursuing a demanding career, I am a bit wary of OP’s statement. While I feel fulfilled “on paper” , my day to day cripples me with guilt and anxiety. If this is what being a power couple feels like, I wish there would be an option taking a lesser toll on my mental health and well-being.
Been through managing a career with two young kids and now elderly parents in another country. Cautiously optimistic about support from the company where I can stay with the parents AND work remote couple of times a year.
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I disagree. I think one will suffer at the benefit of the other.
Do you think someone can you do this without a partner? I am thinking I might have a child on my own, but I love my career.
See my message above. Widowed, 3 kids and managed to supercharged my career due to no more partner. It depends on what you want and what makes you happy!
Haha... maybe if I hired a Manny I could but I wish I would have known not to get successful until after my youngest was at least 5. The feeling of failure is a daily struggle and the cost of preschool out of pocket during inflation like this really makes me question what I'm doing.... almost in Kindergarten tho but damn.
Single mom BTW. I'm a boss at everything but relationships it seems. 😬