Wedding planning and the surrounding stress and constant family drama has made this a deeply depressing process for me. Every time I find myself getting excited about it, something happens and I’m back to the dark space I’ve been in for most of this process. I feel broken. Just venting.

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I feel this, I’ve had my best friend going dark on me for months, she was supposed to be maid of honor but now we’ve decided not to have bridesmaids and groomsmen because of this. On top of that my fiancée brother decided to steal money from his parents…very weird dynamics going on and I’m just not in a great spot with the wedding being 4 months away

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Same to you 🙏❤️

Ugh… totally understand. Just got married last week and the biggest stress was my mother. Highly recommend a therapist.

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I got married last year and the process felt very dark and isolating for me also. I felt such a weight taken off after getting married and getting to resume my normal. I’m sorry you’re going through this 💕

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My sister just got married and went though this as well. The drama and stress almost made her call the whole thing off. Eventually though we figured out how to “cut the fat” and it got much better. Not perfect but better ! I know it feels over whelming now but I’m sure your day will be wonderful and beautiful!

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Don’t be afraid to elope if it’s too much.

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Hang in there! Also going through the same process, well actually I hate organizing events so literally I am so done with the wedding preps but sending you good energyyyyy

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I feel this. Just seems like when a wedding come along, some people act the complete opposite of how they should, and then don’t understand why they’re in the wrong.

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I’m one week in to wedding planning and I’ve cried every day so far (not tears of joy). Hoping it gets easier once a I have a venue 😢 didn’t think it’d be this difficult!

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My best advice - remember that all of the "stressful parts" are the least important. The reception is truly just a party, so remembering to keep it light and keeping it in perspective might help. Take a step out and remember why you are doing this! Hopefully this helps!

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