What's a good way to tell a colleague who is constantly prying into your life and offering unprompted feedback on your work to back off? I’m trying to find a polite but direct way to tell him to mind his own business. I don't want to start drama, but the constant questioning is getting annoying. Any tips?

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If you don't want to use the direct approach (ALWAYS the best and least likely to be misunderstood method) then just stop answering them,

Give unrelated answers about the weather or just ignore them, saying you're busy or something.

But in cases like this, nothing beats direct and unambiguous communication.

If talking is too confrontational or uncomfortable, send them an email expressing your concerns about both their behaviour and your desire to keep things civil and not let it become a conflict.

Good luck.

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Yes I do agree, written communication can be misinterpreted and used against you

Personally I'd probably just give very vague responses so they don't really have much to go off and comment on

Have you tried anything yet?

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