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Hi Fishes, Can Anyone please tell, one of my friend joined Tech M in August, At the time of joining she was 3 months pregnant and now shes worrying about her manager. She wants to inform them about her pregnancy; is it right time to inform? Or she needs to wait for 6 more months for that to inform? Anyone please clearify.. HCL Technologies Newco Tata Consultancy Accenture Deloitte
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I completely understand the appeal of working remotely, especially with a young family at home. At the same time, earning the additional $30,000 now—while you’re early in your career—can make a meaningful difference in your long‑term financial trajectory.
Even though the current role requires being in the office, remote positions often shift back to hybrid or in‑office expectations over time. If that happens, you’d still be earning significantly less than what’s available to you right now.
With the higher‑paying role, you’d still be home every evening to see your wife and the baby, and you’d be building a stronger financial foundation for all of you. It’s worth considering the long‑term benefits while you have the flexibility and energy to take advantage of them.
I would only really agree if it was extremely time limited, like “I work the 120k job for one year and we *save* all of the extra 30k and invest it/put it in 529 account for the baby”.
The extra time being able to see your family during lunch/the day is invaluable.
Money can't buy time with the family. Go for the 90k remote.
Good perspective!
Depends on how far the commute is to be honest. If it’s not too bad, def take the higher salary. Especially if it will help your career in the future
Good take, I have to be in office every day unfortunately but my 25 minute commute(15 on mondays and fridays) make it very much so manageable. I also don’t have kids yet though.
As a parent, it is really hard to work from home with a baby or young children at home. They cry in the background, interrupt whenever they want. I remember my ex-husband having to take calls in the garage so he could concentrate and sound professional. If you really want to be home, maybe look for hybrid where you’re only home one or two days a week.
Yes, this is something I’ve thought about
That's a tough call. I’d stick with the 90k remote role. Being home with a newborn and supporting my wife during that first stretch feels way more valuable than the extra pay, especially since the current comp is already comfortable. You can’t really buy back that time.
That’s the thing. I know these moments only happen once. At the same time, there will always be something in the way..
First - Congratulations!
Not related to your question but parental benefits don't always kick in when you join. There maybe a period before you are eligible for parental leave etc. a buddy learned that the hard way.
Insurance: just make sure the new job covers the doctors etc. that you need
In terms of remote - depends on who you are. My ADHD effectively means I'm useless at home. Something to consider:
1. Remote workers are at higher risk of layoffs
2. You likely have an established reputation in your current role. With a new baby you can deliver with ease rather then juggle learning the new role and delivering
3. People in your current position will understand if you need to disappear for a doctor appt etc.
Work from home !!!
As someone who had a very absent parent when growing up (left at 5am and back at 9pm every day), it now shows being older! I’m 24 and he barely knows anything about my life and I find it so sad.
Money is so not worth it over your relationship with your kids. Always put them first.
My parents made the mistake of thinking working so hard for us was putting us first, but I think quality time is appreciated so much more
Also after just having a baby I’m sure your wife will appreciate all the help that she can get
Thanks for sharing your experience :)
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I’d keep the lower job if you are making ends meet. New baby time is priceless.
My family and especially my kids were super thankful in my last 2 remote roles. You can't replace your presence with your family and being there for their moments. I would work and they'd sit by me while I help them do homework- I know, serial multitasker. Role was client facing FP&A. Other times, the lils are on my lap while I'm working on a client call. Before I worked from home, my son cried because he hardly saw me. I was in 2 colleges when he was born, dual masters accelerated through his toddler years, and he was ready for some work life balance from his dad. I stayed in my last role 3 years due to great work life balance, awesome culture, and the company understood I had kids. Left to do bigger and better as I had outgrown the role but it was the best thing for my family. If they had the role I wanted internally, I would've never left.
It's hard to find those special companies that get you have a family and its not lip service. Even my clients did [CEO's- they'd have their kids in the background too. Gave plenty tips on raising kids and kid issues I already got through]. Money isn't everything, it helps, but time is the inevitable thing we can't get back. Use it wisely.
Hope this helps.