Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

Book recommendations for Experimentation (for a noob)

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Book recommendations on genetics and bio hacking?

Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

Any book recommendations for soft skills at an agency/studio? For stuff like giving feedback, meetings, presentations, client interaction, etc.

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

How does everyone bill for family law matters? Do you always bill hourly or is there some flat fee, monthly or quarterly fee structure that could work, even in contested matters? I have cases that the clients end up spending $20-$40,000 on a contested divorce and this is really out of their budget. I feel that if my firm could charge a flat fee of $10-$15,000, it would still be beneficial from a client predictability and volume standpoint and would generate more referrals.

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Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

How is everybody doing with the lockdown? Dealing with the stress of an ongoing divorce and loneliness is driving me nuts

Anyone ever heard of Exabeam ? Thoughts on company , culture, work? Principal security consultant. Thanks!!

How’s working at Ogilvy? How are they doing?

Hi fishes,

Teksystem - (client - flipkart) 16LPA fixed
Aditi consulting - (client - Tmobile) 18.5LPA fixed

Which is the best to go with?

Solana 😭😭😭

I don't own any and it hurts.

Curious in seeing what people's avg cost basis is in this, when you purchased, and why?

Got an offer for 180k + 40k bonus for a SC role in Dubai at a T2/T3 shop. Is this competitive?

Any good site/utube channel to learn SAP HANA

Hi Fishes,

I hope you all are doing great!

Currently I am working in TCS as SAP PS consultant and serving notice period. The last working date is 31.08.2022.
I am looking for some better opportunity in same domain.
It would be greatful if you could refer me in your organization for the same.

Thanks!

Any advice or thoughts on the experience required to get hired at Salesforce as a Solution Engineer vs Sr Solution Engineer?

Yoe: 3
Experience type: Functional Consultant

Hey , I have 9 YOE in SAP HANA .I want to know how I can get a job in FAANG. Should I learn new technology or continue in SAP HANA .

Can anybody provide any insights about citibank project in @Synechron. How is the work life balance here?

A creative judging film craft at CLIO’s and don’t have a single film in the portfolio? #industryproblems

Who else is doing the SeaWheeze Virtual Half Marathon? Ideal event for consultants 😁

Hello, are there any holidays in October/November?.

what if I join a company and resign within a month?

Hi fish! Looking to break into tech! Dream company is Google🥹 Curious if anyones company is hiring Recruiters? More associate or entry level. Thanks!

Preference for Boston: W or The Liberty?

Looking for a roommate for 2br apt on UWS starting Feb 1. Rent ~1700. Female roommate.

Looking for non- fiction book recommendations. I just read Shoe Dog and loved it.

What is the best consultancy for Media and Entertainment work? Considering a move…

Good or bad time to head out on parental leave?

Recommendations for a keyboard? I’m quite illiterate in this topic, and I ordered a random one off Amazon and it’s quite noisy, and not very ergonomic

Top 10 books to read about consulting life ?

Republican here. But what kinda guy we have here. Disgraceful!

Sorry, Delta passengers. No bathroom trips while we're being held on the tarmac.

Hello! I’m a clinical healthcare worker and am currently working on a master’s in finance to pivot to healthcare consulting.

I’m trying to get an internship next summer (I have the time off work) but am having difficulty finding internships for non-MBA master’s degree candidates. (I have a clinical MA and doctorate & it’s been an auto-reject from analyst internships.)

Would anyone be willing to connect for internships or work for companies that love non-traditional candidates? Thank you

REALLY dislike this new FB feature that deletes all of your notifications from subscribed posts every time you close the app.

Why is that I always end up alone? Everyone I love, family, friends, romantically, either moves away, breaks up or dies. Am I so unlucky? #ForeverAlone

Any recommendations for a mattress? Cheaper the better (although I’d love the Sheraton, I can’t afford $$$$)

Planning to do a PRM or FRM qual. How useful is it to move from Big 4 Risk and reg consulting to industry? Finding it hard to get anything other than non-PM roles

Not motivated to go out on the weekends because travel has you feeling all type of ways

Brady's March to the sea. It's like the sequel to Shermans March...

For those that have been laid off, how’s the job search going? Have you gotten offers fairly quickly (I.e. 2-4 weeks after getting the notice)?

What is good to watch on Netflix or Prime lately?

Senior simply copy pastes my work and sends it to client. What the fuck is this? I don't understand how incompetent some people can be