A year ago, I followed my boss (partner in small 3partner firm, in a merger with much larger corporate firm, which has been a match made in hell... I was put on PIP a few months ago and feel like I'm constantly being watched and constantly waiting for a phone call or email to let me know the hammer is falling. I love my boss like family, but just received an awesome offer from another firm I have to take. The stress over telling my boss is killing me... Anyone have any tips??😬

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Rip off the band-aid.

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If you were put on PIP, it’s just a matter of time before you’re fired. Have a conversation asap & get it over with. If they’re a good person, they’ll be happy for you.

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OP, he knew about the PIP well in advance and agreed to the terms set out in it. He probably drafted it. You need to advocate for yourself by leaving.

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Get the hell out of there. Your boss is still your boss and if the job isn’t working out, you move on.

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If your boss cares about you in the same way, your boss should encourage the move.

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I threw up out of anxiety to tell my first mentor/favorite partner that I was lateraling. It ended up totally fine - He took it really well and was totally understanding

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I can understand the anticipatory stress you are feeling. But that will all be gone and you will feel so much better after you have that conversation. Get in there and win one for the gipper. Do it.

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Tell them as soon as you can. Waiting to tell them only makes it harder in my experience. There might be tears but that is ok - just the side effect of a sincerely like-family relationship. It’s the end of an important era so of course it will be hard. But I believe in you! 💖

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I had to tell my boss I worked for for 5 years that I was leaving to be on an assigned counsel panel. I was so nervous but he was happy for me.

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Your boss is upset with himself that the move hasn’t worked better for the team. That’s not your fault, assuming you’re doing your part (working same as before). If he’s not happy for you, then you should not have such strong feelings for the guy. Keep it cordial and tell him you’ve solved a problem for both yourself and him.

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I think You hit the nail on the head! He definitely is not happy with the decision he made, but I think he has not wanted to acknowledge his mistake or do anything about it. He has been pretty good about me giving my notice, so I do think that is somewhat of an acknowledgment of the bad situation we ended up in.

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Honestly, I left after five years. My old boss is like family to me. The way I handled it was by going to him outside of the office, at his home, and speaking with him directly (assuming you have that type of relationship). I told him that I was sharing this on a personal level and that the following day I would be formally submitting my two week notice. I explained that the next day we would be meeting from a supervisor employee standpoint, but that conversation was between friends. We are friends til this day.

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Rip the bandaid off and RUN

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The fact that youre asking this question tells me your boss is awesome. You gotta jump ship though. Asap.

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Do it in person. It’s going to be emotional for both of you. But the relationship doesn’t need to end, and shouldn’t. Schedule a meeting, show up, don’t beat around the bush, tank the partner profusely, and ask what you need to do to wind things down with nominal disruption for all involved. Then leave the right way. In a few months, invite the boss for coffee. Thereafter be intentional about remaining in touch.

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Take the offer. Ask someone internally for references in case your new gig won’t work out.

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