AA fam! Do you feel that the step 9, promise 11 has manifested for you? Would love to get some perspective and thoughts on this.
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“We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.”

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Yes. Not ALL situations, but most of them. Things that used to send me into a tizzy not knowing what to do next, would literally drive me to drink to avoid the problem or to be used as "thinking juice." Now If it doesn't come to me right away, I can pray or meditate or ask for help and one of those will get me to the next right thing. No meltdown or alcohol required. Ones that still baffle me are where protecting/prioritizing my sobriety comes in conflict with honesty, being of service, etc. (I.e., should I spend Christmas with my alcoholic mother? I never have a good answer for that one, but maybe with time)

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Thank you. That’s a wonderful perspective. I have now started to treat all of my life as opportunity for growth, so if something goes to plan, great, if it doesn’t, it’s an opportunity to reflect and learn and course correct. Helps dissolve the polarity of “good” and “bad” outcomes, instead all of life becomes a spiritual experience.

Sometimes I don’t realize that I’ve changed. I often unnecessarily judge my progress based on the hardest things (family, relationships, etc), rather than celebrating and appreciating the small wins along the way. I also often don’t give myself credit for the blatant character defects that I was able to quickly leave behind. I find self reflection is best viewed from different levels and different angles, and to remember that I’m allowed to be human, which is to say I’m designed to make mistakes, no matter how “sober” or “recovered” I am.

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