my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Approaching the 1 year mark of my career and taking some time to reflect. What advice would you have for your 23 year old self?

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

How personal is too personal for a SOP. I want to talk about how my aunts postpartum depression and consequent suicide shaped my career aspirations. Is that too personal/ would that be inappropriate to share?

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

For those who have researched these things at length / spoken to doctors: if I’ve had children in the past and have had a chemical pregnancy recently, is there any point to sending my husband for a sperm analysis? E.g., his swimmers hypothetically must be at least kind of working?

Any chance firms mandate the vaccine?

What's the biggest health myth you've heard that you'd like to bust? Mine is that supplements are always a healthier option than prescription or OTC meds. A lot of the supplements on the shelf contain all types of unnatural ingredients and can still be harmful depending on the dosage.

I do an hour workout and split it between 10 mins cardio and 50 mins strength workout. Q - do you do cardio first or last? I do it first, but see a lot of folks at the gym do it in the end. Any benefit of one vs the other?

First baby, already saving in a 529 and UTMA Brokerage for him, what else can be done? Open to ideas on how to best set him up for future success - at least financially

Trying to decide on the HDHP Health Insurance. Basic vs. Premium. Benefits says the two are equivalent in coverage except three differences - deductible $3K premium vs $3.5k basic, no monthly payment for basic and no $2K company contribution for basic HDHP. What am I missing here. Why would t one not go for basic as you are ahead by about $1K. Any explanations or thoughts?

We can’t have classroom management without taking care of ourselves first. Rest. Even if it’s for 2 minutes. We close our eyes and reset.

So today was my first day on a stimulant (diagnosed as an adult), and everyone says its suppose to feel like *boom* magic, or normal (?) , I guess. Knowing that is figurative, what should I actually be expecting? I feel mostly the same, I think, though I came in and actually did started my work today. But I mean, somedays I do that...I just don't want to psyche myself out if I'm expecting too much. Or pscyhe myself in if I actually might not be experiencing what I should.

I work in a women's health clinic- "Dense" brease tissue has become a hot topic for our patients! I
feel like it comes up multiple times weekly!

Why are there VPs commenting in this app? For god's sake don't you have like significant others, spouses, more going on with your life??

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

Can anyone recommend a good book/materials to prep for the CIPP/CIPM? 🙏🏽

I am in a long distance relationship with someone who is currently in B school. He spends pretty much all his breaks and holidays traveling with his classmates. Most of the time I am fine. But for some important holidays and my birthday, I told him we should spend time together. He just said it’s more important for him to bond with his classmates and ignore my ask. It’s really disappointing and I don’t know what else to tell him. Is that a reasonable ask or am I being dramatic?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

When does Natwest initiate employee onboarding after background verification?

Does it happen in the last week before joining?

Hello - what is the EYP role for 5-6 YOE? coming from US and think it might be junior mgr but want to confirm. Thank you.

Need some advice, Is it a good time to switch to another company provided i stayed just 6 months in current org and I may move to US next year in August or later. There is no mental peace here at current workplace and also have no learning , became monotonous.

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General optimum age and mileage for buying a used car?

How much does Citi offer for
Role: C12
Location: Pune
YOE: 9
Profile: Data Steward
What is the appraisal cycle and how much is the average increment in Citi?

Oak park vs. Evanston - thoughts?

Do partners know each other’s compensation? I see partners selling engagements for vastly different numbers b/w shorter ‘interesting’ strategy work and longer ‘boring’ transformations. Thoughts?

What’s happening at Grady Britton? Good team? Good clients?

Any ex-Amazonians product managers who moved to Google? How did you find the move 1) from an innovation and learning perspective and 2) is the company’s culture better? I.e expectations and recognition.

Salary for a CA fresher in TIAA India as an internal control analyst

Happy Friday! Please comment your YOE and LPA.. I'm felling low.

Does anyone know where to get some of top consulting books used or low cost (physical copies)? Stuff like the 4S method, pyramid principle and McKinsey way comes to mind, but would like to get copies at a lower cost if possible.

Mindtree fishes still working from home or hybrid started ?

Anyone looking for a job? Remote for a small firm, great company/culture.

M7 Bschools with most scholarship opportunities for vets?

🌟What's happening Wednesday🌟
What's going on in Charlotte? Let's use this thread to share events, concerts, holiday festivities, and other fun things happening in the city this weekend!

Have any 🐠 out here pre-ordered, “Quit Like a Woman?” I’m excited to read it. I subscribe to Tempest and Love Sober and Soberistas.

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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My sister is turning 30 in rehab this week, and I want to send her a birthday gift that she'll appreciate, but also that might be helpful to her as she transitions into a new sober life.

Any recommendations?

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

For everyone in recovery, please reach out and stay in touch with your people. Isolation is a killer.

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Has anyone tried using Kratom to help with an addiction to opiates? Does Kratom itself get addictive if you start using it for a while?

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

By chance anyone needs it this Sunday. Don’t punish yourself for the things done whilst drunk. Chemically you are not the same person, your whole brain is altered, who could expect for it to make the same decisions. And Alan Carr is the book I always go back to - remember every time it gets easier because you know what to do and you learn!

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.