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Same thing as a guy dating girls.. It doesn't matter until you start to plan a vacation and realize you're paying for everything instead of together. The worst is dating someone who doesn't have aspirations past their current shitty job.
I love dating bartenders bc they're fun and normally connected socially to all the fun things in town..... Until you have to listen to the same stories about asshole customers who don't tip... Or they can't get off on the weekend bc "that's money." So, I'm taking money out of their pocket by wanting to spend time together? Dang it.
Yes it is an issue. I think expenses should be split in half (in all fairness reasons). And having similar income means taking a huge chunk of potential fights. So I agree with the previous comments, dating someone who's making less money could be a deal breaker.
My now husband makes less than half what I do (and has for the last 10 years). It has caused issues here and there; he struggled with it at the beginning, but once we combined finances he realized it was actually to both of our benefits that I'm well compensated. At this point it is mostly my mother who objects, and encourages me to take a step back in my career so I don't 'continue to emasculate him.'...
I make almost 3x as much as my husband. We share our finances 100%. We both chose very different paths but we both are happy and love what we do. That's what matters most to me. I don't rub it in his face and we are very transparent about what we spend. It's worked for us but our roles are somewhat reversed.
I started dating my ex when I was in b school. He owned his own home, treated me to nice dinners and experiences... Then I graduated and my salary jumped up to 50k more than his. He said I started to do things "for myself" and that I didn't "need" him anymore. I didn't even notice a change in my behavior, but he was sensitive to it.
I make more than my husband, and I don't think it bothers him. If it bothers him, he's never shown it. He has family money though, so maybe that's why he doesn't feel "threatened"...? We also have joint accounts for everything. (@AC1 I'm the one that gives him a BJ when I/he gets home)
D2 -- I don't think it's really fair to expect someone to start earning as much as you because income isn't the only measure of success. If the job has growth potential and is one your SO likes then I think that's what counts. I can see it being frustrating if the situation was one in which the job was going no where and your SO didn't even make an effort to find a better gig.
Are you worried it will? On one hand money shouldn't be an issue... But on the other, money is nice.
I am curious about this as well. I currently make about 15k more than my boyfriend but if I stay at Deloitte the gap will continue to get bigger. He says he's fine with it but I feel like it could start to get to him.
OW2, you're the MVP 😊
Depends on their earning potential. Don't be myopic if the situation is just for now, and you like the person. However, if it's always going to be the case, then be pragmatic
D3, I think you should give the boy more credit than that. Also, I think it kinda motivates them 😉
Also D3, does your bf work in consulting?
I know I should.. No he's not in consulting and he has a good job that he likes it's just a smaller company that I don't see ever giving raises every year and bonuses like Deloitte does.
Raises and bonuses as high* as Deloitte does
OW1, are you the one who gives her husband a BJ when you/he gets home?
@D4: boys are like that. Ugh. They're so sensitive of making less money than their GF. As if we rip their ego apart by just earning more. But I think it's their fault for not earning more. Everyone has 24 hrs per day anyway.
I make three times what my long term boyfriend/future husband makes. Emotionally we spent time upfront in our relationship laying a foundation of what we valued about each other -- he's from the south, where financial care taking is expected of men...so I had to explain what I wanted instead. Transactionally we split shared expenses based on the take home pay % split (to avoid disparities in HSA and retirement fund contributions). We reconcile every few months, but the only time we have problems is when my travel choices push his budget a bit...like last year when we spent close to $30K 😕... He pays 29% of that, which pushed him past his desired budget...so we just keep an eye on it and discuss every month when we reconcile in Quicken.
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