Anyone else here feel unnecessary anxiety before and during all phone calls? I’m not talking about brand new clients, but even ones that I know very well and have a good relationship with?

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The anxiety is not directed at anything specific, and usually I have nothing to be anxious about. I am confident in meetings and fairly outspoken (even though they drain me of energy), but I will stumble over my words during phone calls, feel nauseated beforehand, feel extremely tense and jittery etc.

Sometimes it even happens when I’m talking to sales people selling TO me.

It’s infuriating and no matter how much I take calls, and no matter how many times things are just fine, I still have a tense, awful feeling

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yes i have that. ugh

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Other people don’t really notice it either until I tell them to look out for it, so while it doesn’t affect me a HUGE amount, I probably don’t present my best self on the phone, and on top of that the feeling is awful.

How have you been dealing with it 😂

Interesting this doesn’t affect you in person. Do you think it’s the lack of ability to read the room on a call? I rely very heavily on non-verbal cues so calls also throw me, I feel like I’m operating with a handicap

Yeah, that’s what I attribute it to. I also rely really heavily on NVCs and I consider myself particularly good at reading the room.

But this doesn’t make me worse at phone calls than anyone else, so it feels irrational and so I don’t understand why it’s not going away with time and frequency

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