Anyone else frustrated with how people conflate introversion with social anxiety? I’m introverted but not socially anxious. And I know plenty of socially anxious extroverts.

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I would very happily work remotely the rest of my life, so long as the work is good and engages my mind.

I have zero desire/need for team-room chit chat or team dinners. I don’t care what anyone is binge watching on Netflix. Not shy nor socially anxious/awkward. Senior manager quite capable of being charming, speaking in a group, giving presentations. It’s just that I would rather not.

Much happier with silence, solitude and working in peace and quiet. Which absolutely confounds extroverts!

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It’s like I hate telling people I’m introverted because they go “No you’re not! You’re so social and a good public speaker!” No dumb dumb you just don’t understand the definition of introvert 😑 but too much effort to explain and correct their assumption

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That and introversion does not equal shyness

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This kills me every time! I don't have the patience to correct people every time, but very frustrating

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D2, i second that. With rare exceptions, remote work can be more productive to me. I also avoid team dinners with all my forces. I think they don’t serve the purpose, at least for me. It feels so artificial and plastic. I also can use my manager charmness when I need, but it is exhausting. In the back of my mind I am thinking why am I not somewhere else.

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