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I think the best tip I can give you on this topic, and this is something I had to learn the hard way, is to not expect immediate acceptance. During the conversation, try to focus on your feelings and experiences rather than seeking out their validation. They're not going to see it the way you do, and it's okay if your parents need time to process this information. If they never come around (which I hope isn't the case), you've still got a life to live in the way that you want to and in the way that you were born. So just remember, you don't need their permission to do that.
I would also add, consider how long it took for you to accept yourself as a gay person. It will take even longer for them. And, there is the very real possibility they may not even accept this.
My partner's family are evangelical Christians. They have a life-size cutout of Trump in their living room. They will not step foot into our home. My partner has been out to her family for almost 20 years and it absolutely kills her that her parents reject her, but welcome her step-brother and his family into their home knowing the step-brother had sexuality assaulted a child.
Coming out is for you. It's the thing that shows you to live as openly and freely as you deserve, but you have to know you very well can lose your loved ones in the process, and that's the part you have to be ready for.
If you rely on your parents for anything it's best to wait until you can do absolutely everything on your own. Because they will either try to convert you, or abandoned you any way they can. They may try to hold your sexualitu hostage.
Also, Central American immigrant not even first gen.
Yeah I did not get acceptance and instead got resistance still to this day.
In the end, you are your own man. If you want to live authentically without having to look behind your back, I say go for it.
But your relationship dynamics will change. They will never be the same if you already know this hardline stance exists. The reality is that is ok. I know it’s not normal in our countries to do what is authentic to you vs what is expected of you. But thankful we live in a time where my cousins and even some aunts are very accepting of me being gay. Whether that sticks whenever I find a guy to bring home we’ll see, but it wasn’t total fallout.
My mother took it and is still taking it the hardest.
But you gotta live life for yourself and not anyone else.
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I'm American but my parents were conservatives and I grew up in what I thought was a conservative household. I was terrified to tell them. My parents surprised me by saying they were accepting in the moment, but my mom took it hard (to her, it meant no grand children and a death of whatever life she had imagined). It took a while but my parents came around and accept me and my partner. So who knows, love of a kid may overcome your parent's prejudices.