Boyfriend says he’s addicted to work and I’m a distraction because he feels guilty not giving me a lot of attention. I’m okay with the dynamic we have. Men, how can I reassure him?

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The day I feel my girlfriend is a distraction, in the negative way, the relationship is over.

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Addicted to work?….sounds fishy

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If he wanted to, he would.

Nobody is addicted to work but if he wants to put all his energy into his career right now, and apparently acknowledges that this is not what he considers a healthy relationship AND you don't seem bothered ... then perhaps it's time to cut loose from this room mate of yours.

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Very well said thanks for this balanced perspective

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Tell him exactly that. Don’t disturb him while he’s working. Get a side piece.

“hey, you’re totally overthinking this and everything is going well with me so stop worrying silly” of something to that effect would do fine

If work fills his time, what fills yours? Him knowing that you also have other priorities may ease his guilt. You sound like a good pair if you are actually satisfied with the dynamic.

It sounds like he’s trying to slow fade and break up with you

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